Queer Query #6: Blogging what ? Blogging Etiquette ?

just as there is drinking etiquette and gay attitude etiquette there is also blogging and writing etiquette... i wasnt just born a day ago.. i have been blogging for five years, however i keep changing blogs for one reason or another... everytime i learn something new..

with my first blog 20 something & gay ... i have learnt not to talk about people
the gay chronicles have revealed to much of myself because you never know who will end up reading this... hence why i recreated my blog under the image of thought... food for the brain ...

as a person grows up he learns something... this might be a free world all and all everyone is entitled to his own thoughts.. and everyone can equally blog/write his thoughts to public ... its the same thing as every has the right to say what they want to say to someone face....

but let me know something... how is it sometimes, one does for a fact censor what he says to someone when its face to face because that person is afraid to hurt someone feelings, yet a person can go online and just bitch the fuck out of that person later on

with out on going rambling the fact is people have etiquette in real life, we learn that when we deal with friends sometimes we say white lies, we learn in school how to interact with people, we learn common social skills its part of growing up.. when we see a person who lacks socials skills sometimes we just say he is still an immature kid he needs to grow up... but when it comes to the blogosphere world what happens to these social skills that we have learnt ? is it because we dont have facial interaction with the person we write about that it gives the right to be MORE bitchier than we would face to face....

does a blog have to be directed to bitterness and hate and lack of class by just dissing everyone in existence and call every one vicious and that no one that exist is good and every is evil and bad and black from the inside and that you have to at some point reveal the viciousness of them all...

if you are a reader wondering what this is about then let me give you some background, with in the gay blogosphere of egypt there is maybe four popular blogs, mine, nautika.blogspot.com ... confessions of a testosterone addict and awkward sex in the city... each one of these blog has their own flavour... i would like think mine is one of the popular ones though... one of these blogs flavour is absolute bitchiness towards people, of sometimes me, that person who goes under the blogging name of E.

The question what made E "the queen of us all", to bitch about us in an extreme way... there is a difference between normal frivolousness and funny bitchyness and just down right mean!

a blog is a useful tool you can use to create good with it or you can use just to show your true evil colours... i would rather do the earlier... we as community dont need much more hate in it, as E said we already are plagued with hate in the real world, he is not the first or the last to do so. however my point is if you see what the people are doing are wrong by being sacramental to others, then why do you doing it .. E's blog starts with the title of "This is a futile attempt to explore sexuality in Cairo" what does all bitchiness and god know what inside there has to do with exploring sexuality.. last time i checked... there isnt more than 5% of the posts has to do with sex.. .actually i have been following his blog for a while hardly anything to do with sex...

when did being gay and exploring sexuality of being gay become the anti christ, from when did being gay meant == rude... maybe sometimes its common accross his scene but not across all.

as i have said i was born yesterday and i was just induced in the Egyptian scene only when i returned i have seen thise scene for more than 8 years prosper and grow and one thing i have learnt as i tried to explain to a new comer last night... the scene is not just made of one community with different sub groups under it... no its made of more multiple scenes, with each scene having multiple communities and each community has multple groups.. point being.. as much as E thinks that we are a scene plagued with bitchiness and horridness which might be true to an extent but its not always.. when i returned back to cairo 8 or 9 month ago.. i found some new gay friends and for the first time i can say this... these new people didnt talk behind my back... these new people when they saw a flaw in me and trust me i am flawed they would tell it to me right to my face... in a POLITE manner, the keyword here is being polite... and here is the thing when you confront someone about something you feel is wrong with him and you be able to provide critisim in a constructive way it just goes along way


i am deviating from the main topic i guess but i do have a point that i do want to make to just some things up.... E, and other "vicious" bloggers why dont you make good use of your writing skills and god knows how good of writer and the wit you have with your words into good use... why all the bitchiness... and even if you are being bitchy and some guy comes and approach you about that he doesnt like being talked about... or if i dont like when you mention a name of a bar in your blog... you should try to be respectful and gracioius to the other person just avoid the drama... and just add more gas to the fire as they say here in egypt tesha3lalah why not grow up and just appologize and end it.. why does there always have to be a scene and a big fuss made about it... why not ever go for truce ? why not be a nice person ?