Quuer Query #18: is there more to life than the gay scene ?

Hello Readers, Followers, First time visiters.... i know its been long since i last posted but tonights post shall not disappoint. The past couple of weeks Q was pretty busy, for followers and readers, you have known that almost two month back i made a little switch in my direction, for a year and 3 month i lived in cairo a year of that, was almost mostly if not entirely focused on the gay scene in terms of my social circle. My life was work, gym, meeting my gay friends, weekend consisted of basically hitting which private gay party was happening and trust me there was alot happening, After a year of this, i was like there must be more to life than just the gay scene, also i realized i hardly had any straight friends... so i came to the conclusion that i will be less and less available on the gay scene while trying to make my enterance on the straight scene, while only retaining only a handfull of close friends who happen to be gay, as our friendship wasnt defined on our sexuality and maybe go to a gay party every once in a blue moon.

Hence two months ago i started my mission, CONQUER THE STRAIGHT SCENE!! it started off a bit rocky at start, starting contact olding friends, doing dinners with them, some of the old friends just bored me to death, until eventually i got back to the correct group :)...  what might have really made things go into full motion was going to Gouna alone during eid, where there i made even more new friends, eventhough i was alone there i was never bored, i just sat and observed people and met people and like came back more adment to be part of that scene, which seems like loads of fun, i mean come on ... Glitz, Glamour, Fancy Bars, Open Air Bars, DJ who plays music on a standard equivlant to an int'l level, and we know how much we Q likes his music (now M before you comment YES THERE IS GLITZ GLAMOUR in cairo ;) ) and luckily me and one of my girlfriend who i am most of the time going out to these bars, have something in common, we are both highly sociable creatues, and in the same time we like to meet new people, not that anything is wrong with the people we know right now and the people we love right, its just sometimes it is refreshing to do your own thing, to have your own thing going on other than having the group thing, and yes eventhough it feels like only two month i am no where near conquering the scene as i would like to but for the first time in the past two weeks and specially after Gouna, i have been releasing i have been making a good step forward in that direction...

now here is the thing, me going there, does not mean i have any negative feelings towards the gay scene, actually no i dont, as i previously mentioned within that scene i made great friends, who are friendship is not based whether we are gay or straight or bi or trans or whatevz is out there ... its based on being friendship.

so to answer my question is their life outside of the gay scene, well OF COURSE YES, you can live outside the scene, and still retain your sexual preference, interestingly enough i think i have recognized more than a handful of people in the bars doing that, granted that they know OF eachother, but they dont form there little own gay click with in the scene, its like each of those gay guys on the straight scene has their own group... and not all are out...

i realize this post has a lot of the word "gay" "straight" where it would look that i am making a differetiation between them and i realize that in an ideal world there shouldnt be much a difference but in reality we are not in an ideal world, there is a huge diffference in the dynamics of this and that ... that one post wont be enough for,  maybe a whole blog, it would be a worth a while to think about it i guess

Queer Query #17: Me Alone ?

hmm.. are you expecting this to be some deperessing post on how a person feels lonely ... FUCK NO!!!  I DONT DO DEPRESSING! this is a post that is more "i am man, hear me roar!!"

hmm so for Eid, while some friends headed  to Sa7el i decided to go to Gouna alone... I was nervous in the beginning of the Trip, i was calling M in london telling him i am use to traveling alone in Europe, its easy to meet friendly people there, but i am not use to being an Egyptian traveling within Egypt itself alone, as we all know Egyptian straight scene is a bit clicky and well i wasnt really on doing on of those hook up with some one in Gouna, i just wanted to relax mostly.

So i pack up books (two of the ones that TrueBlood Series are based on) the New Dan Brown Book and some random fourth, i get a copy of menshealth and pack up my cloth and here i am set up for Gouna,

As soon as i arrived there was a party happening starting from 3pm-12 it was called "Work IT" it was the party that the whole straight scene was talking about, i went there alone, and well it was one hell of a party ... but appearantly i suprized myself... i thought i would be shy and sit in the corner and just watch people... which i hardly ever do when i am in Europe .. BUT NO  i wasnt that shy weakling who sits in a corner in a matter of 2-3 hours, Q Met some group of girls and started mingling with them and talking and the next day Q went on the beach, and appearanly the girls all came and sat on my "bed" it was sort of a king sized suntanning bed.... and again was mingling and the girls again are planning to take Q out tonight,

My point simply being i have noticed one thing where ever i traveled let it be the Gulf, Europe or Australia, i always easily managed to meet people and enjoy my time, even if i am alone, GOD I LOVE MYSELF (am i being too egoistic here hmmm, hello YOU ARE TALKING TO Q OF COURSE I AM )

well enough about me (can we ever get enough about me)

xoxo
Q

Q Music #6: Streets of Cairo

Streets of Cairo by Dj Samba Produced by Electrum Records (Egyptian Company) with vocals from payton

puts our Egyptian Dj to an international stage

Queer Query #16: Relationship Auto Destruct (RAD)

Just to be clear the title of this blog is SO not original i read it somewhere, either on like M's Blog or Lou Blog or maybe i have written it in my old blog, who remembers, as long as i am not claiming full credit for it :), but i am making it my own by calling it RAD,  now lets get one with it

Blogoshere O Blogosphere, writers, readers, if you are single dont sometimes day dream about that prince harming *cough* charming ... If you are in a  new relationship, are you worrying about how to make it work, or if you have a LTR (and maybe a littlte FYI LTR doesnt equal more than 6 month maybe more than a year , 2, 3 ) then well you can consider yourself lucky and SMART.

One thing i have noticed within some of my friends, whether they are straight or gay, there is something common, we have this gene in our DNA that as soon as we get close to someone or open up to someone this gene gets activated, it releases hormones in our brains, and those hormones makes us do crazy things in effect, crippling the chance of developing a relationship with this person we opened up to. This gene is caled the Relation Auto Destruct (RAD) Gene.

lets start with a 20  year old friend of mine,  for the past year he has been around with a couple of men, by a couple i mean more than you can count on both your hands and feet ;), but he complains that he cant find the right MAN for him, the man who he clicks with on more than a sexual level,  he has a belief that as if he is trying to prove a new point, that yes you can have a relationship after sex... and sex first is important you know the whole philosophy  "Test drive the car before buying" well anyway  so its not so much of a new belief. So this friend of mine lets call him "Z", meets someone who is nice to him, who is decent to him, who understood him, etc... oh yea and Z sort liked him too, they even went on a little weekend away from the city together. then the RAD gene kicks in, Z starts to over analyze things and starts asking questions, Am i moving to fast? was it right to go for the weekend away? are we getting bored of eachother ? is he bored of me yet  ? OMGW am i going to be monogomous finally ? oh does that mean i am going to sleep with one person for the rest of the year *cough* life ? So Z decides to have an infidelity with one of his random guys, just to prove to himself, well honestly i am not sure what he wanted to prove it doesnt make since... Anyway regardless of Z's guy would take and he would be okay with it becuase they are still not a 100% commited i guess or hmm, thats the effect of the RAD Gene.

Moving from the simple Gay world, to the world of the unknown, the Straight Female !!!
A friend of mine lets call her W, W has been always the girl who is well part of the boys, she got well with the boys, she is like on of us, her persona in itself is strong, and she aint afraid to swear and cuss at you in a classy way obviously, I have known W for a year or so but i think before knowing her she had a BF after that none, but here is the thing about W she as any girls would dream of her prince charming, and well she always got Harming, she most of the time got the guy, who is already with another girl, who might break with his GF for W, or end up marrying his GF and leaving W, hmmm all so interesting. . . so where is W's RAD GENE, well her RAD gene is making her choose the wrong guys all the time .

I am currently single, and i have so many examples of my RAD Gene, let be me saying the wrong things at the wrong time, me acting in a certain way that i should not, or me being at sometimes overwhelming, and to those who of you know me, my excessive texting and phone calls and drunk dailing!!


We all have our RAD Genes, only the few of us have been able to control & master it, those few are the ones in committed long term relationships or married. i dont understand that this statements means that all if you are not in a relation, i.e. your single, it means because its you RAD, which is not entirely true, because i also acknowledge the fact that you could be single because you just want to be,  or because you cant find someone you click with or you could be just plane old butt ugly

;)

Cheers,
Q

Queer Answer: The Q Squared Survey Results

In my previous post i put on a survey, 17 people took, i didnt, granted that i got some comments from friends that the survey was fully fair considering the fact when it came to asking about the sexual addiction part it didnt take consideration couples/partners, i do admit that the survey was done in a rush sort of because i was excited that i found out a way to create surveys on BLOGs.. REVOLUTIONARY!!! but cairo... well at least 17 people of cairo answered and these are the responces i got for some of the question

 

 

 

  

Now while i am honest the idea of the survey came from another blog i was reading a straight one actually what was interesting in the results of the straight one compared to the gay version i hapazardly created was... that we had one similar question "Do you fast ?" in that one which was also anonymous as mine since we used the same engine, 95% answered yes, where here the majority answered no with a percentage 53% ... ok i get it not much of a majority... but still a 40% difference is alot in the other survey the girl was able to get 20 also votes.. and it was aimed to a certain select of people .. the egypt upper class... .. another interesting thing that i noticed most is the class question when i was look at each person result like as full survey answered by one person i would notice that they would say for example they are X Class then they would think the gay men are in the Class above them, with a few people choosing that the gay people exist in the lower class too... well this was my first survey so hopefully the next one would be thought through more appropiately ...

oh i realized that i had a 15 year old reader for my blog, while seeing the written comments  and this is the 15 year old reading my blog... .. well you are lucky when i was 15 i didnt have blogs to read from, we had to learn everything on our own.. now you have our blogs to get enlightened by.. LOL 

Cheerfully yous,

Q.

Queer Query #15: Does the brain work all the time ?

Hmm does your brain work all the time.. yes. Take me as an example i always think.. non stop even when i try not think and relax i am thinking.. i believe if you are not thinking then well you are brain dead and in turn you are dead. We continuously think about things that are important to us or to people we care about or to things we care about. Or even we think about or our urges like hunger, thirst, or being horny.

So this entry is going to take a new direction, first i will talk about myself which i usually do.. since i am supposedly narcissistic then i will ask you reader to fill out a survey (below)..

Thought #1: A Tale of two cities...
Having spent first two weeks of Ramadan in cairo and a couple of days in Saudi, i couldnt help notice the difference in attitude towards Ramadan, or maybe i just have two very different groups in each city. While in Cairo, it is "3ady" not to fast and as i previously mentioned i think in a way or another its becoming more acceptable with in the a certain sect of the community not to fast usually the liberal one, Riyadh is sort of opposite, and please dont say oh well its the Saudis, because my group is a mixture of Egyptians, Lebanese, Syrian & Jordanian guys. Secondly another thing i noticed Gay Community of cairo has less men and family members involved in it, where as in saudi there isnt per say a gay community its mostly a mixed community, so you will have mixture of straight and gay people together, or even a gay guy with his sister and another girl with her boss. It just those small differences made me think.

Thought #2: Age .. am i growing old ?
having been through a couple of interesting days and having some younger friends, where not necessarily what they are interested in .. i am interested in. It ranges from certain type of gossip, or just random sex or just some thoughts, I am starting also become in myself more mellow and i a more in content with that, like if i hang out with just a friend have tea and just chill i would be more happy than going to party (IQ if you are reading this ... i know you like that too.. the whole tea thing sometimes and i am not generally referring to you being younger than me in this point.. the world doesnt revolve around you ;) LOL ) ... its just lately sometimes when i am having conversation or interactions with people or am i just becoming boring !!!

Thought #3 Sexual Addiction
Remember in the first part of the post i said you think about things about you or people you care about ... well i cant help notice some of my friends and i can name a few do have sex on often ocassions like on weekly basis.. and i am none to judge and just because i have been on the whole notion for the past year that i woudnt generally sleep with a person unless i am dating them .. but in my head i think about my friends abit, are they too much addicted to sex.. or again i am growing to old too Fast...

okay now that i have did my what i usually call "brain dump" where i just slurt out my thoughts... now its your time to do my survey.... so why dont you riddle me the below questions..

Q Music #5: Madonna Celebration (Benni Benassy Remix)

this song needs no introduction and the remix is even better

so enjoy