Queer Query #5: Under the influence ?

Is it possible for a gay scene to exist with out being under the influence of a substance... regardless of the substance being drugs or alcohol ?

okay even if people are drinking in a party, i mean after all its a party, how would you socialize, do people know their limits on when to stop drinking ?

FAST FORWARD...... abit

If you think of it, in reality alcohol is not that common in the Arab world, as it is western. Yes you might be use to going to parties in Egypt where everyone drinks, Yes you might go to drinkies every now and then, Yes you might even call that dealer of yours to hook you up with the exported one if you havent travelled in a while. so in our bubble its common, but step out of this bubble and look outside of the bubble of gay parties, look outside of the bubble of straight bars, its not common.

now let me just deviate a bit and point out something... usually sometimes when you are in a gay scene you dont always get people introduced as the 19, 18 year olds, mind you though there is a huge influx of those coming in now... but sometimes there comes 25s, 30s even who just join in... and those new incubents dont generally drink, as remember as mentioned earlier its not that common for people outside of those bubbles to drink, so these new influx usually come in and under peer pressure start to drink... some might go to the extreme and go do drugs, even though not as common as it seems in Egypt..

The problem with this, is that you get 18-21 new influx and not to mention the 25s, 30s etc coming in and they just dont have the experiance in handling their drink... once upon a blog time my best friend who goes by the blogger name M with The Affirmation blog has said... that when he was growing up he would always wanted to be better, he learnt all the proper etiquette, including the art of drinking, the art of asking guys on dates, the art of actually kissing a guy in a party with out looking like a total sleaze bag, ...i think i never saw M make a huge fool out of himself in any party that i have been with him at... anyway i clearly as most of the people who would have known me in the past have lacked this etiquette but i made it a point that i actually learn some....

so i was retransformed i stopped making out with random boys ... i know how to hold my glass .. and eventaully i am starting to have better social skills, specially when it comes to meeting people for the very first time.

my point is that i am trying to make here is that well, gay parties get tiresome after a while, dont get me wrong i am not complaining they are fun, because you get to hang out with all your friends at the same time, you get to talk in a safe heaven, you even get to meet one or two new people every now and then...however have you ever stopped in the middle of the party and just looked around... looked at the faces of the people around.... looked at the way they were acting... thats exactly what i did in last night party... i had a couple of glasses of Vodka Cranberry with a twist of Orange, when i was starting to get typsi around 2 am i have decided time to sober, so go myself glasses of water with a twist of lemon and started drinking by 2:30am .. i was all great again .. then as i inhaled on that cigerate between my fingers and looked at the people around me.... my friends... the new commers.. the younglings... and just looked at their faces i couldnt just help how drunk they were ... they were fun though.. but it just made me think can we have fun with out being drunk... can we just be satisfied with just being typsi ... or on that part where its before you are drunk but you are not so sober at the same time?
i am not saying lets go all non alcoholic eventhough i bet it would be very very very very interesting to see 1 gay party with out alcohol... i can already imagine the faces of people... everyone would be nervous and complaining ... and not to mention fidgety scratching their forearms for that drink


so as i was writing this blog,,, i think i know what this scene needs, it needs some classes for M, M since you are not in egypt for a while maybe you should do us a blog entry on your blog where you teach the boys here about the etiquette of gay partying

xoxox
Q