Guy or Girl
relationships are hard and confusing at sometime, and trying to find some for this so called relationship is harder... we do people even bother in the first place .. i wonder?
but oh well no denying we need it, its like we need water, we need someone to love and someone to love us, all that bullshit.
Just look at the multi-million if not billion dollar industry of self help books, such as dating for dummies, or mens are from venus women are from mars, or "how to land your perfect gay boy toy ?"... granted i am not sure that the last one has been released yet but come on ... it wont be so absurd if you find off the shelves of some bookstore (NOT AN EGYPTIAN ONE OBVIOUSLY).
Lately i have been noticing my friends in their pursuit for their soulmate, or their fling and i have been noticing a lot of things, take the following characters for example
- A Girl friend of mine, constantly goes after whats wrong for her and she knows it, she goes after assholes, guys who are looking for one or two week stand of girls, and she is not that kind of girl, but the way she projects herself and goes after those guys, makes the guys think so, and well at the end she ends up no where
- A Guy friend of mine, well is in a relationship with this other guy, and the other guy is sort, well lets say they arent much of a match, they have stuff in common and stuff but still, something is missing, and they spend most of their time arguing more than actually enjoying their times... Shouldnt relationships be about fun, more than about drama. IF IT AINT FUN, SKIP IT... unless you invested years into it
- Another one of my girlfriends, she liked this guy, he was into her, they went on two or three the guy is basically decent, and he treated her right, and like she doesnt hide much from him... but it turns out the guys bff, has sort of stopped her Mr. Right from seeing her by mentioning to this mr Right that he and her use to have a crush on eachother that went no further than innocent casual dates, for hell sake the girl didnt even kiss the BFF. so the girl is left with no Mr. Right, granted that Mr. Right was good for her, and she is too picky to find another guy who could be Mr. Right
those are just three different examples, if i start from my own experiences of dating well that would be a blog by itself i mean and i am no different i am sure the lot of you had the same shitty experience once or twice.
here is the interesting thing, we tend to forget sometimes that there is two sides of the story ... meaning? lets say you had a shitty experience, dont you think the person would talk in a not so "positive" way about you, while you would also do the same (OF COURSE WE ARE ALL ANGELS AND WE DONT TALK SHIT!!!... But assume for a minute here)
and in our so ever small gay community that means well since we all had bad experiences then we all would have some sort of bad reputations. Which in turn means that when you come to date a new guy and ask about him you might here something bad about him if that guy is not from the same circle of friends of yours.
Would you take your friends opinion of the guy, or would you go by your own instincts?
sometimes these friends could be right, when facts are right in your face, i mean lets say they tell you this guy you started seeing is a whore ... and well infact that little cunt of a guy is a whore, he sleeps with 3 different guys a week, while he has a boyfriend who he makes him thinks that he is monogamous with (okay side note here, this has nothing to do with me its just hypothetically speaking)
tayeb would you want to know what is your reputation ... ?
i think i know mine, i am supposedly stuck, rude, arrogant, shayef nafso, classist etc ... some of them might be true some them might not be, but to really get to know me the person interested should go on a few dates with me before judging on that.
or be it same thing with you, you shouldnt judge a person based on one date or what you have heard, spend actual time in getting to know this person
okay how did i reach here, oh yea relationships are hards and confusing, so in turn this blog post is confusing with the information flow :)
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