Queer Query #16: Relationship Auto Destruct (RAD)

Just to be clear the title of this blog is SO not original i read it somewhere, either on like M's Blog or Lou Blog or maybe i have written it in my old blog, who remembers, as long as i am not claiming full credit for it :), but i am making it my own by calling it RAD,  now lets get one with it

Blogoshere O Blogosphere, writers, readers, if you are single dont sometimes day dream about that prince harming *cough* charming ... If you are in a  new relationship, are you worrying about how to make it work, or if you have a LTR (and maybe a littlte FYI LTR doesnt equal more than 6 month maybe more than a year , 2, 3 ) then well you can consider yourself lucky and SMART.

One thing i have noticed within some of my friends, whether they are straight or gay, there is something common, we have this gene in our DNA that as soon as we get close to someone or open up to someone this gene gets activated, it releases hormones in our brains, and those hormones makes us do crazy things in effect, crippling the chance of developing a relationship with this person we opened up to. This gene is caled the Relation Auto Destruct (RAD) Gene.

lets start with a 20  year old friend of mine,  for the past year he has been around with a couple of men, by a couple i mean more than you can count on both your hands and feet ;), but he complains that he cant find the right MAN for him, the man who he clicks with on more than a sexual level,  he has a belief that as if he is trying to prove a new point, that yes you can have a relationship after sex... and sex first is important you know the whole philosophy  "Test drive the car before buying" well anyway  so its not so much of a new belief. So this friend of mine lets call him "Z", meets someone who is nice to him, who is decent to him, who understood him, etc... oh yea and Z sort liked him too, they even went on a little weekend away from the city together. then the RAD gene kicks in, Z starts to over analyze things and starts asking questions, Am i moving to fast? was it right to go for the weekend away? are we getting bored of eachother ? is he bored of me yet  ? OMGW am i going to be monogomous finally ? oh does that mean i am going to sleep with one person for the rest of the year *cough* life ? So Z decides to have an infidelity with one of his random guys, just to prove to himself, well honestly i am not sure what he wanted to prove it doesnt make since... Anyway regardless of Z's guy would take and he would be okay with it becuase they are still not a 100% commited i guess or hmm, thats the effect of the RAD Gene.

Moving from the simple Gay world, to the world of the unknown, the Straight Female !!!
A friend of mine lets call her W, W has been always the girl who is well part of the boys, she got well with the boys, she is like on of us, her persona in itself is strong, and she aint afraid to swear and cuss at you in a classy way obviously, I have known W for a year or so but i think before knowing her she had a BF after that none, but here is the thing about W she as any girls would dream of her prince charming, and well she always got Harming, she most of the time got the guy, who is already with another girl, who might break with his GF for W, or end up marrying his GF and leaving W, hmmm all so interesting. . . so where is W's RAD GENE, well her RAD gene is making her choose the wrong guys all the time .

I am currently single, and i have so many examples of my RAD Gene, let be me saying the wrong things at the wrong time, me acting in a certain way that i should not, or me being at sometimes overwhelming, and to those who of you know me, my excessive texting and phone calls and drunk dailing!!


We all have our RAD Genes, only the few of us have been able to control & master it, those few are the ones in committed long term relationships or married. i dont understand that this statements means that all if you are not in a relation, i.e. your single, it means because its you RAD, which is not entirely true, because i also acknowledge the fact that you could be single because you just want to be,  or because you cant find someone you click with or you could be just plane old butt ugly

;)

Cheers,
Q