So hmm the EXIT ? what exit exactly is this crazy Q going on about now ? for the past two weeks i have been thinking (and god when i think... i think) so i came to this conclusion its sort of exiting the scene, it comes a time after 1 year of being with in the Egyptian gay "Pop" scene, by pop i mean the popular one... the one for a year where i have been so adamant on defending ... the one that i also made some great friends, been to great parties, met alot of interesting characters... but i just came to the conclusion that i am so invloved in the gay scene that i personally dont even have much str8 friends!...
whats the point of str8 friends anyway some might ask ? i mean they sometimes are just boring people that all the time just talk about 1. women tits 2. women asses 3. womens curves 4. soccer 5. some second rate sport 6. playstation. etc... is that true ? come on guys cut me some slack if we do generalize the str8 people as that they can easily categorize us as the guys who only talk about 1. men cocks 2. mens arses 3. mens body 4. partying 5. partying 6. drugs 7. alcohol ....
so i do believe somehow for someone to be balanced internally he needs to be balanced within his friends to have both gay and straight friends, but not to just have one. if all of your friends are gay ... i could say 80-90% of the talk is about men... and it doesnt have to be in a sexual way .. it could be relationship way or you obessesing about your own body or just a guy you like etc.. having only straight friends you might also end up talking about politics playing with that PS3 ... (side note .. why are gay men in egypt a huge fan of PS3 or is that a group of guys i havent met yet) you get to also hang out with people who have children, who have different views as you...
however mostly in a perfect idealistic world a person is a person and it doesnt matter if he is gay or straight ... because thats just his sexuality and it doesnt mean it affects the rest of him.. .but as i said thats in aidealistic world... in a realistic world.. its not really that you would generally notice major/minor differences within the two different worlds
so my exit is not me exiting being gay its exiting the main scene its me starting to work on my making some straight friends... me trying to regain the part of me that wasnt much associated with my sexuality but also i made some good friends during the process of the scene, who have been more than supportive so me leaving the scene doesnt mean i will cut all connections with them it just means that i wont be outgoing as much as to parties and however some of those guys are real friends and we will always stay in touch (Z ;) ) and for my blog ... just becuase i am not reporting from the scene means it will end but you might notice a different tone in the blog
Cheers,
Unbalanced Q
Saturday, 25 July 2009
Saturday, 11 July 2009
Q Music #3: The Summer Playlist (Part 1)
instead of going through the effort of typing it up i am actually going to attach images from my playlist and oh FYI Bob Sinclair new album Born in 69, only had the ability to stay on my harddrive for a period of 5 minutes then it was chunked in the "trash" ... its awful and repititive and not orignal and not the Bob Sinclair we love
Add to the two above play lists, Cascada - Evacute the Dancefloor, FYI boys there is alot more new tracks out there like the new Eddie Hawoell.. Cream Ibiza ... however this the music that i thought was essential on the beach after a long night of partying.. or is the music to get you just pumped up in the right mood
Saturday, 4 July 2009
Queer Query #9: Le Caire... The lesbian side of Cairo?
I woke up, this Friday and sort of it had it all planed out to be a quiet night, just lay on the pool in one of Cairo posh pools till sunset, followed by a dinner with a friend in a quiet Zamalik restaurant, which is what exactly happened, however that was not only what happened. As I was finishing my dinner with my friend who I haven’t seen in a long time, I called my good friend Saurez who is leaving the country in a few days, see what he is upto and grab a coffee, later I found out that he is downtown with some other friends who are visiting having a drink, and told me I should come over, so I looked at the watch it was 9:30, I said to myself why not I will just go for an hour then head back home, I did it have it me to stay longer,
As I met up with Saurez and his friends who are visiting, I did enjoy my time which is not a hard thing for me considering that I am happy most of the time, as I usually do I called Z (aka Ice Queer) to check up on him … to much of my surprise, he said “I am in a lesbian birthday party at a friends house, you should come and get your friends with you “ … in my head I was like fuck going home early I will not miss on the chance to meet the lesbians of Cairo. In my whole life in Cairo I only met three, and I thought there was no lesbian scene in Cairo I thought that might just meet off gaydargirls, and just be like more private and less outgoing than us poofters.
So I round up the boys with me, and we head off to bourgeoisie Mohandseen, Z takes from downstairs of the building then three flight of stairs (no lift) and I make an entrance to a house I have entered a month ago, where there was a vibrant dance party. The door opened, OMG, the gay men have been replaced with lesbians I mean girls. The proportionality of Poofters to Lezzies was 1 to 3, I was in shock. Also as soon as I entered my head was just drawn back two years, when I went to an after party at a Filipinos friend of mine in Dubai, I remember that night clearly, it was after a wild night in club Peppermint when it existed in the Habtoor Grand, I entered his house and I found out like 30-40 other Filipinos, where there was no dancing they just sat in a big circle talking!!!!! Well entering the house and seeing the Lesbians gathered around the house sitting on the sofas and chairs and not dancing just made me reminiscent of that night.
As the night progressed, and drunken Z swayed his hips left and right and a couple of the lezzies started to get up and dance, the music was mostly straight music, okay not straight music, RNB music (which to me by definition is straight, even if its Rihanna) it was very interesting to observe the lesbian culture of Cairo, even though I didn’t really talk much as, with any gay culture, I was too busy looking fabulous and mingling with the other gays and updating about my very active life and showing off my new gym body (not so perfect but improved)
However i kept noticing as the night progressed the girls, just went from calm to damn right wild girls!, some girls where kissing, others where touching, we had the variety of lipstick girls to the dykes and the tom boys, and well all the girls that you see on the L-Word. However as the clock came close to 1:30am I was thinking it was time to make my way back to the Island, and head back home, however just as I was leaving I met one of the most interesting girls, she was very friendly, the way we met was I was lighting her “cigarette”, and she accidentally kicked a plant that looks like a mini palm, she tried to readjust using her butt cheeks! Which she was able to do ! then we exchanged the whole I hate vag, I hate cock words, then we talked.
I asked her: why don’t I see you girls more often ?
She Said: oh because the girls here are afraid, they are more afraid than us gay boys, we have more freedom,
With this this expression on my face that reads WTF, I said: but you girls have it better than us, you can be more disguised than us, you can just walk into clubs, because you don’t need this whole couple entry rule as you are girls, you just can walk as we men we cant walk in any clubs
Her response: well as you we are mixture of girls, and the girls are just afraid to go out and be judged or thought of as that they are lesbian..
Then I got interrupted by a friend who dragged me for a dance, however this girl I was talking didn’t sound like the girl who is afraid to go out, she wasn’t afraid but it seems she was just pointing out what the others girls though, which sort left me hmm well I had no idea other than damn there is a lot more to Le Caire (Lesbian Cairo and not the French name to Cairo) to discover it was sad that I didn’t get any contacts or spend more times with these girls to discover them its also sad that both of our scenes don’t mix often, as both of us could be very beneficial for each other in cairo, for people in the closet, we can use each other to maybe mask the fact the they are lesbians and that the guys in the closet are gay. There is a lot more collaboration that can be made between the two scenes.
When I was in Australia I noticed one thing, that the lesbians didn’t really much go to the gay bars and vice versa and when I found finally a group of Arab lesbians there, they invited me over to their house and introduced me to sub Gay Arab scene, which apparently was more interconnected, also one of the girls said, it was also due to the fact that some of Arab Lesbians and Gay Arabs would get married to each other to mask their sexuality to their family in Australia, or if there families are back in the middle east. I have done my share of traveling and globally I have noticed that there is always a disconnect between the two scenes and until know I don’t understand why I have tried on more than one occasion to do but I don’t
With love,
Q
As I met up with Saurez and his friends who are visiting, I did enjoy my time which is not a hard thing for me considering that I am happy most of the time, as I usually do I called Z (aka Ice Queer) to check up on him … to much of my surprise, he said “I am in a lesbian birthday party at a friends house, you should come and get your friends with you “ … in my head I was like fuck going home early I will not miss on the chance to meet the lesbians of Cairo. In my whole life in Cairo I only met three, and I thought there was no lesbian scene in Cairo I thought that might just meet off gaydargirls, and just be like more private and less outgoing than us poofters.
So I round up the boys with me, and we head off to bourgeoisie Mohandseen, Z takes from downstairs of the building then three flight of stairs (no lift) and I make an entrance to a house I have entered a month ago, where there was a vibrant dance party. The door opened, OMG, the gay men have been replaced with lesbians I mean girls. The proportionality of Poofters to Lezzies was 1 to 3, I was in shock. Also as soon as I entered my head was just drawn back two years, when I went to an after party at a Filipinos friend of mine in Dubai, I remember that night clearly, it was after a wild night in club Peppermint when it existed in the Habtoor Grand, I entered his house and I found out like 30-40 other Filipinos, where there was no dancing they just sat in a big circle talking!!!!! Well entering the house and seeing the Lesbians gathered around the house sitting on the sofas and chairs and not dancing just made me reminiscent of that night.
As the night progressed, and drunken Z swayed his hips left and right and a couple of the lezzies started to get up and dance, the music was mostly straight music, okay not straight music, RNB music (which to me by definition is straight, even if its Rihanna) it was very interesting to observe the lesbian culture of Cairo, even though I didn’t really talk much as, with any gay culture, I was too busy looking fabulous and mingling with the other gays and updating about my very active life and showing off my new gym body (not so perfect but improved)
However i kept noticing as the night progressed the girls, just went from calm to damn right wild girls!, some girls where kissing, others where touching, we had the variety of lipstick girls to the dykes and the tom boys, and well all the girls that you see on the L-Word. However as the clock came close to 1:30am I was thinking it was time to make my way back to the Island, and head back home, however just as I was leaving I met one of the most interesting girls, she was very friendly, the way we met was I was lighting her “cigarette”, and she accidentally kicked a plant that looks like a mini palm, she tried to readjust using her butt cheeks! Which she was able to do ! then we exchanged the whole I hate vag, I hate cock words, then we talked.
I asked her: why don’t I see you girls more often ?
She Said: oh because the girls here are afraid, they are more afraid than us gay boys, we have more freedom,
With this this expression on my face that reads WTF, I said: but you girls have it better than us, you can be more disguised than us, you can just walk into clubs, because you don’t need this whole couple entry rule as you are girls, you just can walk as we men we cant walk in any clubs
Her response: well as you we are mixture of girls, and the girls are just afraid to go out and be judged or thought of as that they are lesbian..
Then I got interrupted by a friend who dragged me for a dance, however this girl I was talking didn’t sound like the girl who is afraid to go out, she wasn’t afraid but it seems she was just pointing out what the others girls though, which sort left me hmm well I had no idea other than damn there is a lot more to Le Caire (Lesbian Cairo and not the French name to Cairo) to discover it was sad that I didn’t get any contacts or spend more times with these girls to discover them its also sad that both of our scenes don’t mix often, as both of us could be very beneficial for each other in cairo, for people in the closet, we can use each other to maybe mask the fact the they are lesbians and that the guys in the closet are gay. There is a lot more collaboration that can be made between the two scenes.
When I was in Australia I noticed one thing, that the lesbians didn’t really much go to the gay bars and vice versa and when I found finally a group of Arab lesbians there, they invited me over to their house and introduced me to sub Gay Arab scene, which apparently was more interconnected, also one of the girls said, it was also due to the fact that some of Arab Lesbians and Gay Arabs would get married to each other to mask their sexuality to their family in Australia, or if there families are back in the middle east. I have done my share of traveling and globally I have noticed that there is always a disconnect between the two scenes and until know I don’t understand why I have tried on more than one occasion to do but I don’t
With love,
Q
Thursday, 2 July 2009
Queer Query #8: Summer Time.. Season of love ? (ehm horniness)
Summer has started.. okay maybe i am one month late on this but none the less it has official started. Boys have been hitting the GYM ever since may in hope with in the two month they can burn away winter fat, or the slim boys will bulk up by taking some steroids & supplements. GYM supplement companies must make a huge profit during this time of year. my GYM in itself has got over over over crowded with straight boy, girls, gay boys, (where are the lesbians?), i use to go to the GYM at like 6 or 7 pm and be always find an empty locker now... i can hardly find one. So Summer comes and we are obessed with our bodies, we check ourselves in the mirror on daily basis, we just want to simply look good for that one month or week or whatever period of time we are going to stay there ... we just want to look as close to Hercules as possible.
The truth of it is, most of the people that go to the GYM for the two month of May & June hardly ever success in that mission because they dont realise that obtaining that perfect body requires alot of work, i have invested 8 month in mine and i am not even close to it... maybe if in the two months they dont eat, and take major fat burners, combined with a shit load of nitro/cell tech they could achieve it .. but it still looks fake.. it doesnt look like a naturall fit body it looks like plastic.
so while all of us are working on our body and checking ourselves in the mirror, its only natural that we get turned on by flesh, we are in the summer we are in the beach we are in the gym, we are surrounded in an environment that supports showing off our flesh whether its the BICEPs or the Calves or the ABs, we are just turned on and become damn horny
i also have noticed an interesting trend over the years and correct me if i am wrong here... usually when summer starts .... alot of relationship ends.... in particular those who were with eachother not because they are actually into eachother.. but just because they were desperate and would be with anyone they meets, its like when the summer comes almost everyone with not so much of a solid relations breaks up...
Then Flings becomes a common thing in the summer, just as relationships are a common thing in the winter... maybe its the wheather... maybe the cold makes want to cuddle after sex.. the heat makes us want to push the guy out of bed afterwards... who knows ? maybe being on the beach or the gym and seeing all those hot men doesnt make you feel satisfied with what you have and that you want to have more ? i am no shrink ... but hey shrinks out there why dont you study this phenoma ...
while the elite plan their trips to europe whether for genuine tourism and seeing the city where they happen to meet a fling there, or whether they go on a sexpade in one of Paris's many sex clubs ... the normal people are in Egypt, showing a "good time" to the tourist.
to sum up ... summer is no time for love, its the time for flings... so what does a person who is not really affected much by the fluctations in the whether to do... oh well another three month i guess of being single!
Not so Wet,
Q
The truth of it is, most of the people that go to the GYM for the two month of May & June hardly ever success in that mission because they dont realise that obtaining that perfect body requires alot of work, i have invested 8 month in mine and i am not even close to it... maybe if in the two months they dont eat, and take major fat burners, combined with a shit load of nitro/cell tech they could achieve it .. but it still looks fake.. it doesnt look like a naturall fit body it looks like plastic.
so while all of us are working on our body and checking ourselves in the mirror, its only natural that we get turned on by flesh, we are in the summer we are in the beach we are in the gym, we are surrounded in an environment that supports showing off our flesh whether its the BICEPs or the Calves or the ABs, we are just turned on and become damn horny
i also have noticed an interesting trend over the years and correct me if i am wrong here... usually when summer starts .... alot of relationship ends.... in particular those who were with eachother not because they are actually into eachother.. but just because they were desperate and would be with anyone they meets, its like when the summer comes almost everyone with not so much of a solid relations breaks up...
Then Flings becomes a common thing in the summer, just as relationships are a common thing in the winter... maybe its the wheather... maybe the cold makes want to cuddle after sex.. the heat makes us want to push the guy out of bed afterwards... who knows ? maybe being on the beach or the gym and seeing all those hot men doesnt make you feel satisfied with what you have and that you want to have more ? i am no shrink ... but hey shrinks out there why dont you study this phenoma ...
while the elite plan their trips to europe whether for genuine tourism and seeing the city where they happen to meet a fling there, or whether they go on a sexpade in one of Paris's many sex clubs ... the normal people are in Egypt, showing a "good time" to the tourist.
to sum up ... summer is no time for love, its the time for flings... so what does a person who is not really affected much by the fluctations in the whether to do... oh well another three month i guess of being single!
Not so Wet,
Q
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