Q Query #26: why am i single?

why am i single ? oh dont we all ask our selves that question...

in theory i am Great package. . . i look good, i am confident, i am well off, i have my own life which is very active, i am interesting, i am funny,  well traveled, did i mention i am great in bed ... i love madonna.

what more qualities does a guy want in a man ... oh yea brains ... well isn't apparent that i have that too!

so seriously what is it more that a man wants in another man. . . i am the perfect candidate yet i am the one who is single among my friends ... i am the one that gets erm turned off in a date by a reason such as "i am not ready to date" or "no no i am into dating, just not into dating you" (Ouch!! slap me harder the next time please !!)  or erm lets see what other excuses i have heard ... "yea i am leaving the country, so we can date!!!" (Bitch if you want me you can stay !!! why dont men plan their life after the first date with me !!"

did i mention i cook too !!!... i said cook not cock!  anyway yea so am GREAT... well every great man has his disavantages...i am a "tad bit" what you call out ... so the men i like find that erm sort of scary more like are intimidated by it... oh and i also act funny sometimes.. i.e. i have the IN YOUR FREAKING FACE ATTITUDE .. NO BULLSHIT STRAIGHT UP TRUTH ... that sometimes might be mis interpreted as vulgar, but obviously some people havent heard of SAVY !

oh but sometimes its not always who gets dumped... i sometimes dump people, like when a kid cheats on me with a friend... thats worth dumping for .. :)  .... or lets what else have i dumped a guy for... oh he said he loves me after a week ( i mean okay i know i am perfect but SERIOUSLY!!)

i remember a guy dumping me after two dates because i was "clingy"! bitch you should be freaking honoured that i actually went out of my way to send you 50 messages to ask how you are.. its not being clingy its called being attentive and being in sync with everything you do... even when you fart i wanna know ... if it smell like flowers or a rat died inside your poop-hole.

so the million dollar question is why am i single ? ... oh well hold on million is actually not much .. make it a billion !

the reason is because i dont know how to handle relationships, dating and all that shit ... i can easily flirt sexually but when it comes to actually dating ... i just SIMPLY scare them away :) before they even get to know how GREAT i am ;)

so to single me in your face you deserve it !

but well i have learnt from madonna, she told me to express myself :)




cheers,
Q

Q Query #25: how many different type of bitches are out there ?

 is there more than one type of bitch ? the answer is simple YES ! we are all bitches after all, arent we ! so without further introduction lets get straight to the juicy part

• The Horny Bitch: this is a bitch who by definition is a man-whore, a slut, a prostitute who doesnt take money, a one that would do anything for just sex, and sex with what they dont care, as long as it has 2 legs and half and a hole..  it would do.  This kind of bitch would do anything to get its lay, it would pretend to be in love with it, or find the weakness of its lay and feed them into their weakness till they get what they want. Once they are done with the kill, they just throw the bodies away, and ignore them
• The Manipulative Bitch: now this is a bitch that likes to be in control, one that likes to be hidden behind the scene, yet control people and manipulate them for their own good, so if that bitch wants a party to happen, it wont organize it, but it would manipulate other people in doing it. There are two kinds of this bitch, the one thats upfront about it and shows its true color, and then the really sleazy ones that think no one knows that they are trying to manipulate people  but in fact we all know
• The Using Bitch: Not using drugs, no no worse... using PEOPLE!! from the perspective of this person, everybody is useful for something, so they would categorize the people, like this person is useful because he has a car, this person is useful because he can help me go to clubs, this person is useful because they can help get this new contract at work, this person is useful because they know a lot of people so i can meet men throw them. they basically see the world in that color only the color of usefulness and the feed and leach on people
• The Social Climbing Bitch: how is this different from the two above, well its a bit of combination of the above two, but with the objective of climbing the social lader, in the gay community the people who are on top of the food chain are by nature the muscle marry's who have good cars and the people who have houses where they can throw ab fab parties, so these social climbing bitch would do anything to climb the ladder to be just a groupy with this those people since it would give them the status of being "cool", so they will manipulate and use people to do so. 
• The Mirror Bitch: okay this is a  bitch that finds a person, idolize them, and start copying them. They start stalking them on facebook, check who are their friend and start being their friends, it checks where does the person go and try to do the same. it even mimics the person attitude ... but as Madonna said "SHE IS NOT ME !!!"
• The Gemini Bitch: the ironic part i am gemini (but i am not this bitch). the Gemini bitch is the SKIZO bitch, is the one that confuses the hell out of you, the bitch that is one day hot and one day cold, the bitch that just cant seem to make up their mind, the bitch that wants to have it all, but in the same time still not sure what all is. 
• The Secretive Bitch: Now this bitch is the one that likes to keep mystery around them, they think by doing so it makes them sexy (yea right!! big WHATEVER!!) they think by holding secrets they hold power and knowledge is power (got me there).. but but not all of this bitch skeletons are good ones, some of them when they come out of the closet shall destroy them.
• The Innocent Bitch: oh this little devil is the one that likes to appear always angelic ... they would claim they are virgins even after they got bonkered in the backseat of a car on the 6th of october bridge 
• The GREEN Bitch: no not green with dollars, green with envy, that bitch is just envious of everything you do, she would try to destroy you at no cost , just because she is an envious bitch... enough said

so what kind of bitch are you ? or what other bitches do you think should be added to the list of bitches

Cheers,

Q

Q Query #24: what is manSham ?

After a few of weeks, of not logging on manjam, and even before that i just logged in once, so we can practically say ever since beginning of 2010, i would have logged in total like 9-10 times at most... not bad for the first quarter of the year.

Today out of no reason what-so-ever i decided well why not check out, which i did and i ended up nothing but disappointed with now 10 pages who are online at the same time... of pure bullshit.

either they have their cock and arse pictures, speaking of which, as soon as i logged some guy had the audacity of sending me his private VIDEO !!! you can send PRIVATE VIDEOs now !!! Seriously ? i opened it of course you know curious what did this video have in surprise for me, i mean come on i for sure knew what would be in it, ... ya3ni akeed it wont be the video of the SONDOUD in valentine or some love video, but anyway i opened up and POPPED on my screen a guy masturbating in this weird thing i didnt know what it was i tried to repeat the video not to see the guy masturbate but to figure out what the hell he was doing it in.. it seemed like he was using cotton around his hands ? does that make sense !

anyway went through a few more profiles ... you either have the muscle marry's who i know them in person so no use in sending them messages, or you have the BEE2A people (yes i am classist, get with the program) or have the people who thing manjam = man-meat-market and have no shame at being FULLY EXPOSE DOWN TO THEIR BITS ... i mean ewww !! leave something for my imagination... or you have the guys who live in Wonderland with Alice, where everything should be happy and pink and rosey and love just grows on trees, and you pick love just like picking an apple of a tree (oh  ehmmm arent we here on earth for a reason)

then you have the 18-19 year old boys,.... they are like fleas, they are over taking us they are everywhere you look, they are under my house they are on manjam, they are in my cafes, they are on msn, i even have one adopted !!!

OKAY I AM NOT HIGH ... I AM SOBER WHILE WRITING THIS POST and i do realize that it doesnt make much since


MANJAM as one infamous blogger or should we say ex-blogger ? eloquently put it as manSham is nothing but a disgrace a shameful act, .... i am thinking maybe i should start a new database or manshit but this time do no allow nudity on it, ehmm make it clean... and sort of do not allow memebers to meet up for sex... make it a clean manjam... wouldnt that be nice...

dont get me wrong i am no ANGEL... yet at a certain age, you just get bored and grossed out by the meat market the gay online websites became... oh well i guess i will log on tomorrow again for no understandable reason, maybe someone can actually surprise me there !

so to MAN-SHAM

Q Query #24: the wisdom of Q?

There is a bunch of experience we gain through life, and as we grow older this experiences becomes dubbed as wisdom, so for tonight i will share with you some of my wisdom

• Never sleep while having a fight with someone, its best to settle things before sleeping 
• Nothing good happens after 2am, by that time most people are drunk or too tired, and not in their sane state of mind
• there is always something positive even in the most negative of things, (if someone died, hopefully they will go to heaven, if you broke up with someone, well now you are single to meet you true soul mate, you got an F on an exam or a lost a deal, well you learnt something from it.. etc)
• People rarely change their cores, dont try to find a partner and try to change them and mold them into what you think is perfect, accept them for who they are.
• Mr. Perfect & Soul mate, they dont exist but there is Mr. Perfect for you, the one who makes you happy, he might not be the vision of your Mr. Perfect, or prince charming riding on a white unicorn, but he still is perfect for you 
• If a relationship is too dramatic or from the start of it is rock, then no point in investing time into trying to make it work, its just not working ! (that is assuming its something new, not a relationship that has been working fine for years.. and had some few bumps)
• no point in games, in mature relationships, if you care for the person then show it off (okay i believe in this, but i constantly get proven other wise that games in fact work, but i still stick by belief)
• its healthy to check out other people while you are dating someone, best thing is why not check out the guys together, rather than pretending that we are angels and we dont check out guys
• open relationships are not healthy ... we are not animals (i still love you and i dont judge ... you know who you are) 
• love in first sight is not an illusion it could actually happen
• but in the same time, there are stages in a relationship .. it goes from seeing the person, to dating the person, to being in a relationship with them... you cant go from 0 - 60 in 3 seconds, you cant know a person in a matter of a week or two or even a month 
• HONESTY!!! Lying never gets you any where it always bites you in the behind, not in the way you like it
• MADONNA is always the queen of pop and no one can de thrown her, not gaga not britney not anyone, they could inherit her though

Thats just some of the stuff i can think off top of my head now

XoXo

Q

Q Query #23: Come again... Relation.. what ?.. "RelationShit"

Gay or Straight,
Guy or Girl

relationships are hard and confusing at sometime, and trying to find some for this so called relationship is harder... we do people even bother in the first place .. i wonder?

but oh well no denying we need it, its like we need water, we need someone to love and someone to love us, all that bullshit.

Just look at the multi-million if not billion dollar industry of self help books, such as dating for dummies, or mens are from venus women are from mars, or "how to land your perfect gay boy toy ?"... granted i am not sure that the last one has been released yet but come on ... it wont be so absurd if you find off the shelves of some bookstore (NOT AN EGYPTIAN ONE OBVIOUSLY).

Lately i have been noticing my friends in their pursuit for their soulmate, or their fling and i have been noticing a lot of things, take the following characters for example

1. A Girl friend of mine, constantly goes after whats wrong for her and she knows it, she goes after assholes, guys who are looking for one or two week stand of girls, and she is not that kind of girl, but the way she projects herself and goes after those guys, makes the guys think so, and well at the end she ends up no where
2. A Guy friend of mine, well is in a relationship with this other guy, and the other guy is sort, well lets say they arent much of a match, they have stuff in common and stuff but still, something is missing, and they spend most of their time arguing more than actually enjoying their times... Shouldnt relationships be about fun, more than about drama. IF IT AINT FUN, SKIP IT... unless you invested years into it 
3. Another one of my girlfriends, she liked this guy, he was into her, they went on two or three the guy is basically decent, and he treated her right, and like she doesnt hide much from him... but it turns out the guys bff, has sort of stopped her Mr. Right from seeing her by mentioning to this mr Right that he and her use to have a crush on eachother that went no further than innocent casual dates, for hell sake the girl didnt even kiss the BFF. so the girl is left with no Mr. Right, granted that Mr. Right was good for her, and she is too picky to find another guy who could be Mr. Right

those are just three different examples, if i start from my own experiences of dating well that would be a blog by itself i mean and i am no different i am sure the lot of you had the same shitty experience once or twice. 

here is the interesting thing, we tend to forget sometimes that there is two sides of the story ... meaning? lets say you had a shitty experience, dont you think the person would talk in a not so "positive" way about you, while you would also do the same (OF COURSE WE ARE ALL ANGELS AND WE DONT TALK SHIT!!!... But assume for a minute here) 

and in our so ever small gay community that means well since we all had bad experiences then we all would have some sort of bad reputations. Which in turn means that when you come to date a new guy and ask about him you might here something bad about him if that guy is not from the same circle of friends of yours. 

Would you take your friends opinion of the guy, or would you go by your own instincts? 

sometimes these friends could be right, when facts are right in your face, i mean lets say they tell you this guy you started seeing is a whore ... and well infact that little cunt of a guy is a whore, he sleeps with 3 different guys a week, while he has a boyfriend who he makes him thinks that he is monogamous with  (okay side note here, this has nothing to do with me its just hypothetically speaking)

tayeb would you want to know what is your reputation ... ?

i think i know mine, i am supposedly stuck, rude, arrogant, shayef nafso, classist etc ... some of them might be true some them might not be, but to really get to know me the person interested should go on a few dates with me before judging on that. 

or be it same thing with you, you shouldnt judge a person based on one date or what you have heard, spend actual time in getting to know this person

okay how did i reach here, oh yea relationships are hards and confusing, so in turn this blog post is confusing with the information flow :) 

Happy Humping "Relationshit" seakers

Q

Q Query #22: what do the A-Lister Gay people do?

Disclaimer: by A-Lister in no means do i mean to be class-est or do actually think that the group of people i am talking about are in fact high society, however within the four scenes below its just an aim of showing that there does exist a life outside of the gay main community where gay people interact within the straight scene supposedly so called high society. 


Scene 1:  An A-List party at one of the posh night venus of cairo, around 6 gay guys there, each mingling with their straight friends, one passes a wink at the other acknowledging their existence,  another hangs out with two others while sharing a drink and having a five minute quick gossip but each toddle back to their straight group, each one but two are in the closet. they dance the night away, each has his own "girlfriend" that they dance with, one flaunts his dancing moves, while another dirty dances with the girl, while an out one just dances the night away like he is in shadowlounge in soho-London.

Scene 2: outside of Cairo in one of those national holidays the Cairo A-Listers head down to Gouna, and go to one of the big bang parties there, again some like 10-15 gay people are there, who sort of considered the A-listers within the gay community, some of them are known within the gay community some of them arent known, and are just known with in that certain small group of supposedly A-Listers, anyway, bardo each to their own group, but they mingle for short periods of time, some of them like maybe two or three have a lot of common friends or even same group

Scene 3: in a go away celebration of one their friends moving out of the country, and they go to some posh bar with in the island and share a few drinks

Scene 4: A guy descends upon Cairo from london, and hangs out with his best friend, his best friend decides to show him that Cairo is not the same as it was 4 years back when he use to live here, so he takes him out to Tamarai, they end up having a few Martinis and well, they dance the night away as if they are in a gay club in london, there was some crotch against crotch action going on, however what was interesting is that it seemed the patron of the bar didnt mind, they are okay as long as it wasnt too much dirty dancing,  and that mind set of the people were cool with two gay guys dancing together.

Q Query #21: When does the Thrill become the killer

As i was having my dinner (for one) in one of those fast food joints, that had a little kiddie section, which had basically something that revolves around itself on axis, i saw the little kids laugh, smile, giggle, look happy.

Damn those kids, they could be happy about something so simple, something that goes around in a circle in aimless purpose. for fuck's sake its just revolving around itself, whats amusing about it, why are they laughing and happy about it.

Ok so i went deeper in my head and said if it was a roller coster i would understand, then i was like hmm why do i like the roller coster, well is it because the thrill, the adrenaline rush, well probably. At the end its almost the same thing, except the thing doesnt go in a uniform circle, but goes in a wavey circle. So do the kids like that ride when they were young because it in a way is sort of a thrill.

dating is the same, we like the frills and thrills with it, a little drama on it, like calling your friend OH MY GOD does he like me, or oh my god i wonder how the first kiss would be like, or OH MY GAWD we just had our first kiss, or OH MY LORDY LORD he didnt reply back to my sms from 3 days ago.

A little thrill also known as drama is a bit good, no? if everything goes smoothly then where is the fun in the hunt! but when does does too much drama become way too dramatic ? when does the "love game" (god bless lady gaga) become a battlefield (bless Natasha Bedingfield)

When does this pursuit for the thrill become the killer?




XxXx
Q.

Q Query #20: in pursuit of normality ?

Almost 3 months without blogging,  i was watching Sex & The City movie on Show movies, scratch that. make it OSN Movies ! (Damn it even the TV Moguls have created a committed relationship with eachother), after watching SATC i got inspired to write again.

The question what to write about, how get you readers back to my blog. what is so interesting, almost everything has been talked about a blog, if i talk about finding that perfect and how difficult it is to find it Cairo, then well i would have done the same thing a million other bloggers done.

So after much thought i decided to write about some of my experiences in the past couple of month, i guess in a way or another my experiences are the ones that make special.

but where do i start, one of my two bestest friends, has returned to Cairo,  and what a joy it is, i was worried before he arrive that he wont fit in perfectly, or get to socialize with the people, but to much my surprise, within less than a week, that cute bff has gotten into the Cairo so scene, that i was surprised he got to know more people than i do, oh when i ever i check out a new guy on Facebook, i find him already a "mutual" friend... hehe i am glad that happened and i am glad that he is back, i am glad that he is back because its easier for me that he is here, its easier to be able to call him or see him when i need someone to talk too... (yes i am selfish i am glad he is back, and i wish he never leaves again ... and bitch if you are reading this, then guess what!?!?! i have a GRAND plan to make you never leave!!!)

In a surprising turn of events, i am getting closer to a friend, that i never thought we would get close, but lately we have been getting closer (on a non dating non relationship level) and again i am glad about that ... he is a great guy... he has potential of bff material (how lame of me to even say that!!)

while on the straight scene well as perviously stated in my previous post i was set on a mission which was conquering the straight scene, getting known, not getting rejected at entry of bars (oh such superficial goals, yet achieved) but the realization i came across is how much is the straight scene is similar to the gay one, how cut throat it is, how much jealousy are among the different groups, how much there is love yet hatred towards each-other, how small the outgoing party scene is, how everyone knows everything about everyone (yes apparently i am out, and apparently gossip travel fast )

i have had interesting experiences, once at Tamarai,  a new girlfriend of mine, told me that she wants to take me to her house so that she and her friend could play dress up and put make up on me !!! EXCUSE ME... I AM GAY NOT A GIRL! a few guys in another club are afriad to talk to me, they think i might bight them! oh and a straight guy friend of mine who i thought was a friend, once told one of my girl friends, that he doesnt always feel comfortable around me! hmm i think because he was extremely metrosexual, that he was afraid to be thought that he is gay by association with me, funny enough that happened also a year back.

BUT its not all bad, one of the boyfriends of one my girlfriends is like a well amazing when it comes to dealing with me, he jokes around about it in a funny way, but i never felt that he is threatened by it. which makes me feel comfortable around him , and to the people who know me, when i am comfortable i am less aggressive and less out there.

there was this one time a guy who went to this friend of mine and said oh how can you stand hanging out with this guy (me), he is hitting on me he is flirting with me (which wasnt true) and the girl being like a gay boy trapped within girl, she bitch the hell out of him in a club, but what was interesting fast forward a month down the lane and i was hanging out with my friends at his house, and it was like it never happened, he was cool around it, i guess.

That feeling of normality is great to have, the feeling of going through life without feeling different, but yet it still empties going alone through it, (oh i am not getting all sappy and shit here)

because i am not doing it alone, granted i am single and all that, but i have my girls and the bff, they understand me inside out, i love it sometimes even when i try to mask myself like say stuff that hiding my feelings or what i think, they respond back oh Q we know you so well ... oh GIRLs i have also a grand plan for you not to leave !! because i cant have you also leave, well at least one of you staying with me!

okay this blog is becoming a relentless mind dump, and hmm as someone said Q you have to learn when to stop. so i will stop here

Q.

Q Query #19: Conqured the Straight Scene - what next?

So since august, i set myself on the mission of conquering the straight scene ... and well i did, it wasnt easy but i did. i Successfully conquered it, even though i am out to the public and almost everyone one the scene knows who i am and the fact that i am being gay.. i think maybe they think its the fashion Trend to have the gay friend... you know like the gay puppy ... your group is cool if it has its own gay in it... well to make sure that we are in line about which straight scene have i conquered .. i am talking about the party scene, the Tamarai, Club 35, La Bodega, scene....

My mission wasnt easy, it wasnt smooth either, because i couldnt totally detach from the homo life, i am after all a homo, so i have my homo friends who i love very much, so at the beginning it might have been difficult to find a balance between two lives, but i finally did it... okay enough praise to myself ...

The question okay i have done this, i established myself a group of friends, actually two straight groups and one gay group, i am out.. THE QUESTION remains... WHAT NEXT ... ?

Meet a guy, fall in love, move in together, and have a baby ?YEA RIGHT... the gay guys who are like me who have their life oir lfie in they straight scene who are recently the guys i am attracted too... are too scared to approach me because i am out .. they think that  i will outst them.. the straight guys on the other hand are friendly ... the girls.. i am their puppy ... meet a guy in the gay scene .. well i have seen them all and either none of them attracted me ... or the ones who i am attracted too are not interested... so here i am stuck in a runt,  SINGLE... that term single is scary for me because i am approaching 27 soon and i have always been SINGLE, (the dates that are under a month dont count .. sa7) ...

so what do i do next... GO BACK in the closet to attract the guys i like ? ... to late for that .. i have been outed in cairo ever since 2004 .. tab eih tani.. get a guy from the gay scene, who doesnt mix in the straight scene ? but how would that fit my lifestyle... it would mean that i have to go and center myself around his life on the gay scene ? or do i take a guy and we be with eachother on both scene ...hmmm hahahah i am sure the girls would love two puppies more than one :)

oh well dont mind me .. i am just thinking out loud here with no specific purpose.. call it stupid rambling... maybe its the winter time... isnt this time of couples... true... all the straight people are getting BFs-GFs.. even the gay friends have now boyfriends (with the exception of my BFF) ... oh CHEERS to walking the streets of cairo alone, Cheers to my single bed.. Cheers to becoming a NUN

Quuer Query #18: is there more to life than the gay scene ?

Hello Readers, Followers, First time visiters.... i know its been long since i last posted but tonights post shall not disappoint. The past couple of weeks Q was pretty busy, for followers and readers, you have known that almost two month back i made a little switch in my direction, for a year and 3 month i lived in cairo a year of that, was almost mostly if not entirely focused on the gay scene in terms of my social circle. My life was work, gym, meeting my gay friends, weekend consisted of basically hitting which private gay party was happening and trust me there was alot happening, After a year of this, i was like there must be more to life than just the gay scene, also i realized i hardly had any straight friends... so i came to the conclusion that i will be less and less available on the gay scene while trying to make my enterance on the straight scene, while only retaining only a handfull of close friends who happen to be gay, as our friendship wasnt defined on our sexuality and maybe go to a gay party every once in a blue moon.

Hence two months ago i started my mission, CONQUER THE STRAIGHT SCENE!! it started off a bit rocky at start, starting contact olding friends, doing dinners with them, some of the old friends just bored me to death, until eventually i got back to the correct group :)...  what might have really made things go into full motion was going to Gouna alone during eid, where there i made even more new friends, eventhough i was alone there i was never bored, i just sat and observed people and met people and like came back more adment to be part of that scene, which seems like loads of fun, i mean come on ... Glitz, Glamour, Fancy Bars, Open Air Bars, DJ who plays music on a standard equivlant to an int'l level, and we know how much we Q likes his music (now M before you comment YES THERE IS GLITZ GLAMOUR in cairo ;) ) and luckily me and one of my girlfriend who i am most of the time going out to these bars, have something in common, we are both highly sociable creatues, and in the same time we like to meet new people, not that anything is wrong with the people we know right now and the people we love right, its just sometimes it is refreshing to do your own thing, to have your own thing going on other than having the group thing, and yes eventhough it feels like only two month i am no where near conquering the scene as i would like to but for the first time in the past two weeks and specially after Gouna, i have been releasing i have been making a good step forward in that direction...

now here is the thing, me going there, does not mean i have any negative feelings towards the gay scene, actually no i dont, as i previously mentioned within that scene i made great friends, who are friendship is not based whether we are gay or straight or bi or trans or whatevz is out there ... its based on being friendship.

so to answer my question is their life outside of the gay scene, well OF COURSE YES, you can live outside the scene, and still retain your sexual preference, interestingly enough i think i have recognized more than a handful of people in the bars doing that, granted that they know OF eachother, but they dont form there little own gay click with in the scene, its like each of those gay guys on the straight scene has their own group... and not all are out...

i realize this post has a lot of the word "gay" "straight" where it would look that i am making a differetiation between them and i realize that in an ideal world there shouldnt be much a difference but in reality we are not in an ideal world, there is a huge diffference in the dynamics of this and that ... that one post wont be enough for,  maybe a whole blog, it would be a worth a while to think about it i guess

Queer Query #17: Me Alone ?

hmm.. are you expecting this to be some deperessing post on how a person feels lonely ... FUCK NO!!!  I DONT DO DEPRESSING! this is a post that is more "i am man, hear me roar!!"

hmm so for Eid, while some friends headed  to Sa7el i decided to go to Gouna alone... I was nervous in the beginning of the Trip, i was calling M in london telling him i am use to traveling alone in Europe, its easy to meet friendly people there, but i am not use to being an Egyptian traveling within Egypt itself alone, as we all know Egyptian straight scene is a bit clicky and well i wasnt really on doing on of those hook up with some one in Gouna, i just wanted to relax mostly.

So i pack up books (two of the ones that TrueBlood Series are based on) the New Dan Brown Book and some random fourth, i get a copy of menshealth and pack up my cloth and here i am set up for Gouna,

As soon as i arrived there was a party happening starting from 3pm-12 it was called "Work IT" it was the party that the whole straight scene was talking about, i went there alone, and well it was one hell of a party ... but appearantly i suprized myself... i thought i would be shy and sit in the corner and just watch people... which i hardly ever do when i am in Europe .. BUT NO  i wasnt that shy weakling who sits in a corner in a matter of 2-3 hours, Q Met some group of girls and started mingling with them and talking and the next day Q went on the beach, and appearanly the girls all came and sat on my "bed" it was sort of a king sized suntanning bed.... and again was mingling and the girls again are planning to take Q out tonight,

My point simply being i have noticed one thing where ever i traveled let it be the Gulf, Europe or Australia, i always easily managed to meet people and enjoy my time, even if i am alone, GOD I LOVE MYSELF (am i being too egoistic here hmmm, hello YOU ARE TALKING TO Q OF COURSE I AM )

well enough about me (can we ever get enough about me)

xoxo
Q

Q Music #6: Streets of Cairo

Streets of Cairo by Dj Samba Produced by Electrum Records (Egyptian Company) with vocals from payton

puts our Egyptian Dj to an international stage

Queer Query #16: Relationship Auto Destruct (RAD)

Just to be clear the title of this blog is SO not original i read it somewhere, either on like M's Blog or Lou Blog or maybe i have written it in my old blog, who remembers, as long as i am not claiming full credit for it :), but i am making it my own by calling it RAD,  now lets get one with it

Blogoshere O Blogosphere, writers, readers, if you are single dont sometimes day dream about that prince harming *cough* charming ... If you are in a  new relationship, are you worrying about how to make it work, or if you have a LTR (and maybe a littlte FYI LTR doesnt equal more than 6 month maybe more than a year , 2, 3 ) then well you can consider yourself lucky and SMART.

One thing i have noticed within some of my friends, whether they are straight or gay, there is something common, we have this gene in our DNA that as soon as we get close to someone or open up to someone this gene gets activated, it releases hormones in our brains, and those hormones makes us do crazy things in effect, crippling the chance of developing a relationship with this person we opened up to. This gene is caled the Relation Auto Destruct (RAD) Gene.

lets start with a 20  year old friend of mine,  for the past year he has been around with a couple of men, by a couple i mean more than you can count on both your hands and feet ;), but he complains that he cant find the right MAN for him, the man who he clicks with on more than a sexual level,  he has a belief that as if he is trying to prove a new point, that yes you can have a relationship after sex... and sex first is important you know the whole philosophy  "Test drive the car before buying" well anyway  so its not so much of a new belief. So this friend of mine lets call him "Z", meets someone who is nice to him, who is decent to him, who understood him, etc... oh yea and Z sort liked him too, they even went on a little weekend away from the city together. then the RAD gene kicks in, Z starts to over analyze things and starts asking questions, Am i moving to fast? was it right to go for the weekend away? are we getting bored of eachother ? is he bored of me yet  ? OMGW am i going to be monogomous finally ? oh does that mean i am going to sleep with one person for the rest of the year *cough* life ? So Z decides to have an infidelity with one of his random guys, just to prove to himself, well honestly i am not sure what he wanted to prove it doesnt make since... Anyway regardless of Z's guy would take and he would be okay with it becuase they are still not a 100% commited i guess or hmm, thats the effect of the RAD Gene.

Moving from the simple Gay world, to the world of the unknown, the Straight Female !!!
A friend of mine lets call her W, W has been always the girl who is well part of the boys, she got well with the boys, she is like on of us, her persona in itself is strong, and she aint afraid to swear and cuss at you in a classy way obviously, I have known W for a year or so but i think before knowing her she had a BF after that none, but here is the thing about W she as any girls would dream of her prince charming, and well she always got Harming, she most of the time got the guy, who is already with another girl, who might break with his GF for W, or end up marrying his GF and leaving W, hmmm all so interesting. . . so where is W's RAD GENE, well her RAD gene is making her choose the wrong guys all the time .

I am currently single, and i have so many examples of my RAD Gene, let be me saying the wrong things at the wrong time, me acting in a certain way that i should not, or me being at sometimes overwhelming, and to those who of you know me, my excessive texting and phone calls and drunk dailing!!


We all have our RAD Genes, only the few of us have been able to control & master it, those few are the ones in committed long term relationships or married. i dont understand that this statements means that all if you are not in a relation, i.e. your single, it means because its you RAD, which is not entirely true, because i also acknowledge the fact that you could be single because you just want to be,  or because you cant find someone you click with or you could be just plane old butt ugly

;)

Cheers,
Q

Queer Answer: The Q Squared Survey Results

In my previous post i put on a survey, 17 people took, i didnt, granted that i got some comments from friends that the survey was fully fair considering the fact when it came to asking about the sexual addiction part it didnt take consideration couples/partners, i do admit that the survey was done in a rush sort of because i was excited that i found out a way to create surveys on BLOGs.. REVOLUTIONARY!!! but cairo... well at least 17 people of cairo answered and these are the responces i got for some of the question

 

 

 

  

Now while i am honest the idea of the survey came from another blog i was reading a straight one actually what was interesting in the results of the straight one compared to the gay version i hapazardly created was... that we had one similar question "Do you fast ?" in that one which was also anonymous as mine since we used the same engine, 95% answered yes, where here the majority answered no with a percentage 53% ... ok i get it not much of a majority... but still a 40% difference is alot in the other survey the girl was able to get 20 also votes.. and it was aimed to a certain select of people .. the egypt upper class... .. another interesting thing that i noticed most is the class question when i was look at each person result like as full survey answered by one person i would notice that they would say for example they are X Class then they would think the gay men are in the Class above them, with a few people choosing that the gay people exist in the lower class too... well this was my first survey so hopefully the next one would be thought through more appropiately ...

oh i realized that i had a 15 year old reader for my blog, while seeing the written comments  and this is the 15 year old reading my blog... .. well you are lucky when i was 15 i didnt have blogs to read from, we had to learn everything on our own.. now you have our blogs to get enlightened by.. LOL 

Cheerfully yous,

Q.

Queer Query #15: Does the brain work all the time ?

Hmm does your brain work all the time.. yes. Take me as an example i always think.. non stop even when i try not think and relax i am thinking.. i believe if you are not thinking then well you are brain dead and in turn you are dead. We continuously think about things that are important to us or to people we care about or to things we care about. Or even we think about or our urges like hunger, thirst, or being horny.

So this entry is going to take a new direction, first i will talk about myself which i usually do.. since i am supposedly narcissistic then i will ask you reader to fill out a survey (below)..

Thought #1: A Tale of two cities...
Having spent first two weeks of Ramadan in cairo and a couple of days in Saudi, i couldnt help notice the difference in attitude towards Ramadan, or maybe i just have two very different groups in each city. While in Cairo, it is "3ady" not to fast and as i previously mentioned i think in a way or another its becoming more acceptable with in the a certain sect of the community not to fast usually the liberal one, Riyadh is sort of opposite, and please dont say oh well its the Saudis, because my group is a mixture of Egyptians, Lebanese, Syrian & Jordanian guys. Secondly another thing i noticed Gay Community of cairo has less men and family members involved in it, where as in saudi there isnt per say a gay community its mostly a mixed community, so you will have mixture of straight and gay people together, or even a gay guy with his sister and another girl with her boss. It just those small differences made me think.

Thought #2: Age .. am i growing old ?
having been through a couple of interesting days and having some younger friends, where not necessarily what they are interested in .. i am interested in. It ranges from certain type of gossip, or just random sex or just some thoughts, I am starting also become in myself more mellow and i a more in content with that, like if i hang out with just a friend have tea and just chill i would be more happy than going to party (IQ if you are reading this ... i know you like that too.. the whole tea thing sometimes and i am not generally referring to you being younger than me in this point.. the world doesnt revolve around you ;) LOL ) ... its just lately sometimes when i am having conversation or interactions with people or am i just becoming boring !!!

Thought #3 Sexual Addiction
Remember in the first part of the post i said you think about things about you or people you care about ... well i cant help notice some of my friends and i can name a few do have sex on often ocassions like on weekly basis.. and i am none to judge and just because i have been on the whole notion for the past year that i woudnt generally sleep with a person unless i am dating them .. but in my head i think about my friends abit, are they too much addicted to sex.. or again i am growing to old too Fast...

okay now that i have did my what i usually call "brain dump" where i just slurt out my thoughts... now its your time to do my survey.... so why dont you riddle me the below questions..

Q Music #5: Madonna Celebration (Benni Benassy Remix)

this song needs no introduction and the remix is even better

so enjoy

Queer Query #14: One Year ?

Yesterday as i graciously entered my GYM, i was met by the receptionist, and this what happened,

Receptionist: Hi Q, whats your ID No.
Me: hmm the ID is #####
Receptionist: Oh... your "annual" membership just expired time to renew it
Me: eshta!

The thing is, when i came back to Cairo the first week i came i did my GYM membership, so by the guy telling me my annual membership is due.. that practically means i have been back in Cairo for a full year.

1 full year back in Cairo !! ONE COMEPLETE FULL YEAR BACK IN CAIRO (okay maybe 25% of this year i was abroad due to work and shit) but still one year resident of good old Cairo... so what have i acheived in this full year of cairo... how have i grown up more how have i matured more what have i changed or accomplished in this one year

• Stopped having one night stands for a full a year
• Lost 13 kilos (i love my gym) ( oh and also its ramadan so i have feeling i might be regaining the whole of this year weight loss in one month!!)
  
• Finished paying off one of my credit cards and brought down the second to 25% of what i use to owe (which trust me is alot!!!!!)
• Done two European Cities, actually if you count 1 year and a 1 month it would be 5 European Cities.. i like to travel and i like Europe so on yearly basis i try to make my trip to a new city every time rather than doing the bulk in one go
• Have worked on my relationship with my brother (it still is a work in progress)
  
• Starting to exit the gay scene slowly but doesnt mean i am turning straight or ditching some of my close gay friends.. its just means slowly exiting the pop scene
• Rising up in work
  
• oh and how could i forget becoming more Spiritual

well i have done much more than that i am sure... OH SHOPPING!!! SHOOPPPINNG oh but every year i do shopping so nothing too much here BUT I LOVE SHOPPING OH THOSE NEW PRADAs and MARC JACOBS and DOLCES !!!!!!!!!!!!!! OKAY they cant really be counted as an accomplishment can they oh for fuck sake of course they can..!!!!!!!! we love marc jacobs!! and Dolce & Gabana (not the cheap shit d&g with letters, no the actual full name DOLCE & GABANA)


so one year done and one year to go!! so whats next year wishes ... what do i want for next year...
well very simple...

• i want my fat percent to go down from 16% to 12/10%
• be closer to owning my house/apartment
• work on reconnecting with some of my old straight friends and make new straight friends while retaining my really good gay friends
• oh speaking of friends my best friend is moving back to cairo in a month so YIPPPIEEEEEEEEEEEEE ... we are going to watch old movies in his house!!
  
• i want some more of Dolce & Gabana and Marc Jacobs,,... and i want to own something Hermes, suprisignly i dont have that Capital H belt or a nice wallet from them yet!!!
  

CONGRATS TO ONE YEAR TO ME IN CAIRO AND MAY MY NEXT YEAR BE FULL OF HAPPINIESS SUPRIFICIALNESS AND IN THE SAME TIME SPIRITIUALITY

Queer Query #14: i am who?!?!!

A Wise friend of mine told me once,

You are in a way the people you surround yourself with

meaning you are reflection upon the people you call friends, the way they act in a way is reflected upon you...


that's the end of today's post

Cheers,
Q

Queer Query #13: Religious Fashion ?

This post might be considered offensive by some .. so i will try as much as possible to tip toe and be non offensive...

Basically, like almost anything with a lifestyle where it includes a fashion, a trend, a following, religion is no exception. However whats interesting its not a uniform trend globally or even within the same country, at least thats how i observe it, so for example in Australia it might have been the trend a couple of years ago among to be paganist, while now the new "fad' is being Agnostic. While on the other side of the world our beloved Egypt the religious trend is dependent on which society you are in, if you are in the straight or gay society.. and then which straight society in. Within the straight society the trend is tending lately to be more pro-conservative, i.e. more religious, however in the same time if you look at the straight "High Society" you would notice well they becoming more religious in terms of words and preaching but not really by acting upon it... after all who filled Skybar and Marasi this summer ;).

Enter the queer world of Egypt, well the fashion in it is Agnosticism, we try to follow the west sometimes. you know what is funny for me sometimes, when i was reading the blog of IQ and his last post "Sin-me My Sunni"... the comments that came on his blog by some of his readers that was all pro his provocative anti-islamic comments seemed to have came out of ignorance, ignorance about Islam, or religion in general, at times i felt like i was a reading a comment of a stupid airhead red state American guy, who is just responding for the sake of responding and following the fashion with no real knowledge of the issues. I in general have no issues or a bone with agnosticism however i am just annoyed when people comment on issues that they are not best knowledgeable about..

Well i myself am a muslim, and i do believe in Islam and i do respect other peoples choices on religion, one of my best friend has a wierd mix of sufism mixed together with kabbalah spiced up with some christianity, my other best friend prays all his five prayers, oh i forgot to mention they both live in london, not in Egypt. ... speaking of religious fashion, i get asked this wierd question this ramadan, that i dont think have been asked before on any ramadan ....

The conversation usually goes something like this ..

Friend: Are you fasthing this ramadan ?

Me: Yes

Friend: Like Fully Fasting ?

Me: huh is there more than one kind of fasting ?

Friend: Yes there is fasting from food only, while smoking and having water... there is fasting from everything other than cigarettes .... there is fasting while having sex ,,,

Me: NO I AM FASTING FULLY!!!!

is this a new a trend? new forms of fasting has developed, is there a new fashion for fasting ?

I believe that regardless of which religious belief you have, having some spirituality or faith in a deity is important for ones soul, so this ramadan, regardless of who or what you believe in... explore your spiritual side ... ? ask your self some questions like seriously, whats the point of this life... is the point of me living.. to blog, or to do the worthless 9-5pm job to advance humanity, or is the point of us living is for us to our soul mate ? what is the point... this ramadan do a bit soul searching, and understand when it comes to religion .. following a fashion trend can be dangerous for your soul, and try to following what you believe in and try find what you believe in and do understand finding what you believe in is not an easy journey...

peacefully yours,

Q

Queer Query #12: RESPECT?

with my new blog, Queer Queries, its been accused by some friends of being "boring", undaring as it didnt have in it what my old blog use to have, the sex element, more like my exploration with guys how i discover more about myself through these guys, its probably because with this new blog i am doing something new with in me, i am becoming more toned down hence my blog became more toned down.

When i was starting this new blog there was something i had put in mind to be respectful in this blog, try not to offend people, my last post in my earlier blog had to do with religious blasphemy, where i might have been considered blasphemous myself. So you can see the 180 degree i took around with in blog. when are beloved IQ posted a new post titled Sin-Me my Sunni i was in shock, he did tell me a couple of days before him posting it that he is going to post something around his religious fetish however i didnt expect it to be offensive to a religion in specific. what shocked me even more was his "Scene II" where he went infront of a guy who is praying and did the spread eagle while practicing his abs!!! talk about disturbing a man's peace, even if the guy was turned on, the idea of disturbing a guy when he is praying regardless of which diety he is praying to ... is just not so respectful

the point is ever since the blogospher was created, god knows when, i remember there was a lot of debate on it and there still is. debate was mostly bloggers becoming news reporters, bloggers have no censorship at all on them, etc. Not that i am pro censorship, but there is one thing i know though, when blogging a person should try to be respectful of others, as IQ said offensive is subjective, as you can see on some of the comments on his new post some of it are pro it and some of it are against it, so obvoiusly its not offensive to all, YET!!!!!! WAIT WE HAVE A BRAIN, GOD GAVE US BRAIN, if you dont believe in god, then which ever deity you believe in gave us a brain, science gave us a brain, which we us to think, when posting something of the nature of what IQ said, we will be quite sure that a lot of people will be offended after all not all his readers, followers, are of similar thought to him.

E, the blogger of awkward sex in the city has left an interesting comment on IQ post

"There is one thing to have a religious fetish, and its a totally different thing to resort to distasteful insinuations to increase your readership.
I personally find it pathetic and a very sad excuse for being "controversial".
But then again, ever the attention-seeking queen that you are, you will do anything to get people talking about what you "write", if I can call it "writing" at all.
And what I find absolutely infuriating is that pseudo-serious attitude you take towards established religion.
You are not "taking down" religion, God forbid, to actually critique it or give us some new insight, or even let us question age-old negative attitudes, no, you are being vulgar, disrespectful with half-baked ideas that are very badly written!
If you don't have anything better to say about homoeroticism of same-sex communities or the traditions that Muslims believe in (being negative or positive) than you would do us all a big favor and keep your "intense, sexy Scorpio" mouth shut!!"

now while most of the times, me and E have had our differences in the blogosphere where we dont agree on the same thing, but i think here E i do agree with you. IQ you can always blog about your religious fetishes nothing wrong with that, but there is always a good way to blog about it and the way you did. oh and i still cant "Scene II" out my head i cant believe you actually did that. Yes as you said its something "you" liked to do... but the key thing about respect is NOT "you" its respecting the other, so if a guy was praying we shouldnt disturb him, and dont give me the whole he choose to to pray here stuff, secondly with regards to your blog entry, well i am sure if you did some rewording you can convey the same point, with the same strength while not offending other people, Yes i am one of the gay guys who is offended by this. Just because we are gay, or agnostic it doesnt give us the automatic right to talk down about other religions, a true respectful person would respect all of other people beliefs.


respectfully yours,
Q