Q Queries

Q Query #26: why am i single?

2010-05-06T10:31:00.000-07:00

why am i single ? oh dont we all ask our selves that question...

in theory i am Great package. . . i look good, i am confident, i am well off, i have my own life which is very active, i am interesting, i am funny, well traveled, did i mention i am great in bed ... i love madonna.

what more qualities does a guy want in a man ... oh yea brains ... well isn't apparent that i have that too!

so seriously what is it more that a man wants in another man. . . i am the perfect candidate yet i am the one who is single among my friends ... i am the one that gets erm turned off in a date by a reason such as "i am not ready to date" or "no no i am into dating, just not into dating you" (Ouch!! slap me harder the next time please !!) or erm lets see what other excuses i have heard ... "yea i am leaving the country, so we can date!!!" (Bitch if you want me you can stay !!! why dont men plan their life after the first date with me !!"

did i mention i cook too !!!... i said cook not cock! anyway yea so am GREAT... well every great man has his disavantages...i am a "tad bit" what you call out ... so the men i like find that erm sort of scary more like are intimidated by it... oh and i also act funny sometimes.. i.e. i have the IN YOUR FREAKING FACE ATTITUDE .. NO BULLSHIT STRAIGHT UP TRUTH ... that sometimes might be mis interpreted as vulgar, but obviously some people havent heard of SAVY !

oh but sometimes its not always who gets dumped... i sometimes dump people, like when a kid cheats on me with a friend... thats worth dumping for .. :) .... or lets what else have i dumped a guy for... oh he said he loves me after a week ( i mean okay i know i am perfect but SERIOUSLY!!)

i remember a guy dumping me after two dates because i was "clingy"! bitch you should be freaking honoured that i actually went out of my way to send you 50 messages to ask how you are.. its not being clingy its called being attentive and being in sync with everything you do... even when you fart i wanna know ... if it smell like flowers or a rat died inside your poop-hole.

so the million dollar question is why am i single ? ... oh well hold on million is actually not much .. make it a billion !

the reason is because i dont know how to handle relationships, dating and all that shit ... i can easily flirt sexually but when it comes to actually dating ... i just SIMPLY scare them away :) before they even get to know how GREAT i am ;)

so to single me in your face you deserve it !

but well i have learnt from madonna, she told me to express myself :)

cheers,
Q

Q Query #25: how many different type of bitches are out there ?

2010-04-27T05:04:00.000-07:00

is there more than one type of bitch ? the answer is simple YES ! we are all bitches after all, arent we ! so without further introduction lets get straight to the juicy part

The Horny Bitch: this is a bitch who by definition is a man-whore, a slut, a prostitute who doesnt take money, a one that would do anything for just sex, and sex with what they dont care, as long as it has 2 legs and half and a hole.. it would do. This kind of bitch would do anything to get its lay, it would pretend to be in love with it, or find the weakness of its lay and feed them into their weakness till they get what they want. Once they are done with the kill, they just throw the bodies away, and ignore them
The Manipulative Bitch: now this is a bitch that likes to be in control, one that likes to be hidden behind the scene, yet control people and manipulate them for their own good, so if that bitch wants a party to happen, it wont organize it, but it would manipulate other people in doing it. There are two kinds of this bitch, the one thats upfront about it and shows its true color, and then the really sleazy ones that think no one knows that they are trying to manipulate people but in fact we all know
The Using Bitch: Not using drugs, no no worse... using PEOPLE!! from the perspective of this person, everybody is useful for something, so they would categorize the people, like this person is useful because he has a car, this person is useful because he can help me go to clubs, this person is useful because they can help get this new contract at work, this person is useful because they know a lot of people so i can meet men throw them. they basically see the world in that color only the color of usefulness and the feed and leach on people
The Social Climbing Bitch: how is this different from the two above, well its a bit of combination of the above two, but with the objective of climbing the social lader, in the gay community the people who are on top of the food chain are by nature the muscle marry's who have good cars and the people who have houses where they can throw ab fab parties, so these social climbing bitch would do anything to climb the ladder to be just a groupy with this those people since it would give them the status of being "cool", so they will manipulate and use people to do so.
The Mirror Bitch: okay this is a bitch that finds a person, idolize them, and start copying them. They start stalking them on facebook, check who are their friend and start being their friends, it checks where does the person go and try to do the same. it even mimics the person attitude ... but as Madonna said "SHE IS NOT ME !!!"
The Gemini Bitch: the ironic part i am gemini (but i am not this bitch). the Gemini bitch is the SKIZO bitch, is the one that confuses the hell out of you, the bitch that is one day hot and one day cold, the bitch that just cant seem to make up their mind, the bitch that wants to have it all, but in the same time still not sure what all is.
The Secretive Bitch: Now this bitch is the one that likes to keep mystery around them, they think by doing so it makes them sexy (yea right!! big WHATEVER!!) they think by holding secrets they hold power and knowledge is power (got me there).. but but not all of this bitch skeletons are good ones, some of them when they come out of the closet shall destroy them.
The Innocent Bitch: oh this little devil is the one that likes to appear always angelic ... they would claim they are virgins even after they got bonkered in the backseat of a car on the 6th of october bridge
The GREEN Bitch: no not green with dollars, green with envy, that bitch is just envious of everything you do, she would try to destroy you at no cost , just because she is an envious bitch... enough said

so what kind of bitch are you ? or what other bitches do you think should be added to the list of bitches

Cheers,

Q Query #24: what is manSham ?

2010-04-17T12:49:00.000-07:00

After a few of weeks, of not logging on manjam, and even before that i just logged in once, so we can practically say ever since beginning of 2010, i would have logged in total like 9-10 times at most... not bad for the first quarter of the year.

Today out of no reason what-so-ever i decided well why not check out, which i did and i ended up nothing but disappointed with now 10 pages who are online at the same time... of pure bullshit.

either they have their cock and arse pictures, speaking of which, as soon as i logged some guy had the audacity of sending me his private VIDEO !!! you can send PRIVATE VIDEOs now !!! Seriously ? i opened it of course you know curious what did this video have in surprise for me, i mean come on i for sure knew what would be in it, ... ya3ni akeed it wont be the video of the SONDOUD in valentine or some love video, but anyway i opened up and POPPED on my screen a guy masturbating in this weird thing i didnt know what it was i tried to repeat the video not to see the guy masturbate but to figure out what the hell he was doing it in.. it seemed like he was using cotton around his hands ? does that make sense !

anyway went through a few more profiles ... you either have the muscle marry's who i know them in person so no use in sending them messages, or you have the BEE2A people (yes i am classist, get with the program) or have the people who thing manjam = man-meat-market and have no shame at being FULLY EXPOSE DOWN TO THEIR BITS ... i mean ewww !! leave something for my imagination... or you have the guys who live in Wonderland with Alice, where everything should be happy and pink and rosey and love just grows on trees, and you pick love just like picking an apple of a tree (oh ehmmm arent we here on earth for a reason)

then you have the 18-19 year old boys,.... they are like fleas, they are over taking us they are everywhere you look, they are under my house they are on manjam, they are in my cafes, they are on msn, i even have one adopted !!!

OKAY I AM NOT HIGH ... I AM SOBER WHILE WRITING THIS POST and i do realize that it doesnt make much since

MANJAM as one infamous blogger or should we say ex-blogger ? eloquently put it as manSham is nothing but a disgrace a shameful act, .... i am thinking maybe i should start a new database or manshit but this time do no allow nudity on it, ehmm make it clean... and sort of do not allow memebers to meet up for sex... make it a clean manjam... wouldnt that be nice...

dont get me wrong i am no ANGEL... yet at a certain age, you just get bored and grossed out by the meat market the gay online websites became... oh well i guess i will log on tomorrow again for no understandable reason, maybe someone can actually surprise me there !

so to MAN-SHAM

Q Query #24: the wisdom of Q?

2010-04-10T12:28:00.000-07:00

There is a bunch of experience we gain through life, and as we grow older this experiences becomes dubbed as wisdom, so for tonight i will share with you some of my wisdom

Never sleep while having a fight with someone, its best to settle things before sleeping
Nothing good happens after 2am, by that time most people are drunk or too tired, and not in their sane state of mind
there is always something positive even in the most negative of things, (if someone died, hopefully they will go to heaven, if you broke up with someone, well now you are single to meet you true soul mate, you got an F on an exam or a lost a deal, well you learnt something from it.. etc)
People rarely change their cores, dont try to find a partner and try to change them and mold them into what you think is perfect, accept them for who they are.
Mr. Perfect & Soul mate, they dont exist but there is Mr. Perfect for you, the one who makes you happy, he might not be the vision of your Mr. Perfect, or prince charming riding on a white unicorn, but he still is perfect for you
If a relationship is too dramatic or from the start of it is rock, then no point in investing time into trying to make it work, its just not working ! (that is assuming its something new, not a relationship that has been working fine for years.. and had some few bumps)
no point in games, in mature relationships, if you care for the person then show it off (okay i believe in this, but i constantly get proven other wise that games in fact work, but i still stick by belief)
its healthy to check out other people while you are dating someone, best thing is why not check out the guys together, rather than pretending that we are angels and we dont check out guys
open relationships are not healthy ... we are not animals (i still love you and i dont judge ... you know who you are)
love in first sight is not an illusion it could actually happen
but in the same time, there are stages in a relationship .. it goes from seeing the person, to dating the person, to being in a relationship with them... you cant go from 0 - 60 in 3 seconds, you cant know a person in a matter of a week or two or even a month
HONESTY!!! Lying never gets you any where it always bites you in the behind, not in the way you like it
MADONNA is always the queen of pop and no one can de thrown her, not gaga not britney not anyone, they could inherit her though

Thats just some of the stuff i can think off top of my head now

XoXo

Q Query #23: Come again... Relation.. what ?.. "RelationShit"

2010-04-05T10:40:00.000-07:00

Gay or Straight,
Guy or Girl

relationships are hard and confusing at sometime, and trying to find some for this so called relationship is harder... we do people even bother in the first place .. i wonder?

but oh well no denying we need it, its like we need water, we need someone to love and someone to love us, all that bullshit.

Just look at the multi-million if not billion dollar industry of self help books, such as dating for dummies, or mens are from venus women are from mars, or "how to land your perfect gay boy toy ?"... granted i am not sure that the last one has been released yet but come on ... it wont be so absurd if you find off the shelves of some bookstore (NOT AN EGYPTIAN ONE OBVIOUSLY).

Lately i have been noticing my friends in their pursuit for their soulmate, or their fling and i have been noticing a lot of things, take the following characters for example

A Girl friend of mine, constantly goes after whats wrong for her and she knows it, she goes after assholes, guys who are looking for one or two week stand of girls, and she is not that kind of girl, but the way she projects herself and goes after those guys, makes the guys think so, and well at the end she ends up no where
A Guy friend of mine, well is in a relationship with this other guy, and the other guy is sort, well lets say they arent much of a match, they have stuff in common and stuff but still, something is missing, and they spend most of their time arguing more than actually enjoying their times... Shouldnt relationships be about fun, more than about drama. IF IT AINT FUN, SKIP IT... unless you invested years into it
Another one of my girlfriends, she liked this guy, he was into her, they went on two or three the guy is basically decent, and he treated her right, and like she doesnt hide much from him... but it turns out the guys bff, has sort of stopped her Mr. Right from seeing her by mentioning to this mr Right that he and her use to have a crush on eachother that went no further than innocent casual dates, for hell sake the girl didnt even kiss the BFF. so the girl is left with no Mr. Right, granted that Mr. Right was good for her, and she is too picky to find another guy who could be Mr. Right

those are just three different examples, if i start from my own experiences of dating well that would be a blog by itself i mean and i am no different i am sure the lot of you had the same shitty experience once or twice.

here is the interesting thing, we tend to forget sometimes that there is two sides of the story ... meaning? lets say you had a shitty experience, dont you think the person would talk in a not so "positive" way about you, while you would also do the same (OF COURSE WE ARE ALL ANGELS AND WE DONT TALK SHIT!!!... But assume for a minute here)

and in our so ever small gay community that means well since we all had bad experiences then we all would have some sort of bad reputations. Which in turn means that when you come to date a new guy and ask about him you might here something bad about him if that guy is not from the same circle of friends of yours.

Would you take your friends opinion of the guy, or would you go by your own instincts?

sometimes these friends could be right, when facts are right in your face, i mean lets say they tell you this guy you started seeing is a whore ... and well infact that little cunt of a guy is a whore, he sleeps with 3 different guys a week, while he has a boyfriend who he makes him thinks that he is monogamous with (okay side note here, this has nothing to do with me its just hypothetically speaking)

tayeb would you want to know what is your reputation ... ?

i think i know mine, i am supposedly stuck, rude, arrogant, shayef nafso, classist etc ... some of them might be true some them might not be, but to really get to know me the person interested should go on a few dates with me before judging on that.

or be it same thing with you, you shouldnt judge a person based on one date or what you have heard, spend actual time in getting to know this person

okay how did i reach here, oh yea relationships are hards and confusing, so in turn this blog post is confusing with the information flow :)

Happy Humping "Relationshit" seakers

Q Query #22: what do the A-Lister Gay people do?

2010-03-23T17:31:00.000-07:00

Disclaimer: by A-Lister in no means do i mean to be class-est or do actually think that the group of people i am talking about are in fact high society, however within the four scenes below its just an aim of showing that there does exist a life outside of the gay main community where gay people interact within the straight scene supposedly so called high society.

Scene 1: An A-List party at one of the posh night venus of cairo, around 6 gay guys there, each mingling with their straight friends, one passes a wink at the other acknowledging their existence, another hangs out with two others while sharing a drink and having a five minute quick gossip but each toddle back to their straight group, each one but two are in the closet. they dance the night away, each has his own "girlfriend" that they dance with, one flaunts his dancing moves, while another dirty dances with the girl, while an out one just dances the night away like he is in shadowlounge in soho-London.

Scene 2: outside of Cairo in one of those national holidays the Cairo A-Listers head down to Gouna, and go to one of the big bang parties there, again some like 10-15 gay people are there, who sort of considered the A-listers within the gay community, some of them are known within the gay community some of them arent known, and are just known with in that certain small group of supposedly A-Listers, anyway, bardo each to their own group, but they mingle for short periods of time, some of them like maybe two or three have a lot of common friends or even same group

Scene 3: in a go away celebration of one their friends moving out of the country, and they go to some posh bar with in the island and share a few drinks

Scene 4: A guy descends upon Cairo from london, and hangs out with his best friend, his best friend decides to show him that Cairo is not the same as it was 4 years back when he use to live here, so he takes him out to Tamarai, they end up having a few Martinis and well, they dance the night away as if they are in a gay club in london, there was some crotch against crotch action going on, however what was interesting is that it seemed the patron of the bar didnt mind, they are okay as long as it wasnt too much dirty dancing, and that mind set of the people were cool with two gay guys dancing together.

Q Query #21: When does the Thrill become the killer

2010-03-20T12:36:00.000-07:00

As i was having my dinner (for one) in one of those fast food joints, that had a little kiddie section, which had basically something that revolves around itself on axis, i saw the little kids laugh, smile, giggle, look happy.

Damn those kids, they could be happy about something so simple, something that goes around in a circle in aimless purpose. for fuck's sake its just revolving around itself, whats amusing about it, why are they laughing and happy about it.

Ok so i went deeper in my head and said if it was a roller coster i would understand, then i was like hmm why do i like the roller coster, well is it because the thrill, the adrenaline rush, well probably. At the end its almost the same thing, except the thing doesnt go in a uniform circle, but goes in a wavey circle. So do the kids like that ride when they were young because it in a way is sort of a thrill.

dating is the same, we like the frills and thrills with it, a little drama on it, like calling your friend OH MY GOD does he like me, or oh my god i wonder how the first kiss would be like, or OH MY GAWD we just had our first kiss, or OH MY LORDY LORD he didnt reply back to my sms from 3 days ago.

A little thrill also known as drama is a bit good, no? if everything goes smoothly then where is the fun in the hunt! but when does does too much drama become way too dramatic ? when does the "love game" (god bless lady gaga) become a battlefield (bless Natasha Bedingfield)

When does this pursuit for the thrill become the killer?

XxXx
Q.

Q Query #20: in pursuit of normality ?

2010-03-18T14:57:00.000-07:00

Almost 3 months without blogging, i was watching Sex & The City movie on Show movies, scratch that. make it OSN Movies ! (Damn it even the TV Moguls have created a committed relationship with eachother), after watching SATC i got inspired to write again.

The question what to write about, how get you readers back to my blog. what is so interesting, almost everything has been talked about a blog, if i talk about finding that perfect and how difficult it is to find it Cairo, then well i would have done the same thing a million other bloggers done.

So after much thought i decided to write about some of my experiences in the past couple of month, i guess in a way or another my experiences are the ones that make special.

but where do i start, one of my two bestest friends, has returned to Cairo, and what a joy it is, i was worried before he arrive that he wont fit in perfectly, or get to socialize with the people, but to much my surprise, within less than a week, that cute bff has gotten into the Cairo so scene, that i was surprised he got to know more people than i do, oh when i ever i check out a new guy on Facebook, i find him already a "mutual" friend... hehe i am glad that happened and i am glad that he is back, i am glad that he is back because its easier for me that he is here, its easier to be able to call him or see him when i need someone to talk too... (yes i am selfish i am glad he is back, and i wish he never leaves again ... and bitch if you are reading this, then guess what!?!?! i have a GRAND plan to make you never leave!!!)

In a surprising turn of events, i am getting closer to a friend, that i never thought we would get close, but lately we have been getting closer (on a non dating non relationship level) and again i am glad about that ... he is a great guy... he has potential of bff material (how lame of me to even say that!!)

while on the straight scene well as perviously stated in my previous post i was set on a mission which was conquering the straight scene, getting known, not getting rejected at entry of bars (oh such superficial goals, yet achieved) but the realization i came across is how much is the straight scene is similar to the gay one, how cut throat it is, how much jealousy are among the different groups, how much there is love yet hatred towards each-other, how small the outgoing party scene is, how everyone knows everything about everyone (yes apparently i am out, and apparently gossip travel fast )

i have had interesting experiences, once at Tamarai, a new girlfriend of mine, told me that she wants to take me to her house so that she and her friend could play dress up and put make up on me !!! EXCUSE ME... I AM GAY NOT A GIRL! a few guys in another club are afriad to talk to me, they think i might bight them! oh and a straight guy friend of mine who i thought was a friend, once told one of my girl friends, that he doesnt always feel comfortable around me! hmm i think because he was extremely metrosexual, that he was afraid to be thought that he is gay by association with me, funny enough that happened also a year back.

BUT its not all bad, one of the boyfriends of one my girlfriends is like a well amazing when it comes to dealing with me, he jokes around about it in a funny way, but i never felt that he is threatened by it. which makes me feel comfortable around him , and to the people who know me, when i am comfortable i am less aggressive and less out there.

there was this one time a guy who went to this friend of mine and said oh how can you stand hanging out with this guy (me), he is hitting on me he is flirting with me (which wasnt true) and the girl being like a gay boy trapped within girl, she bitch the hell out of him in a club, but what was interesting fast forward a month down the lane and i was hanging out with my friends at his house, and it was like it never happened, he was cool around it, i guess.

That feeling of normality is great to have, the feeling of going through life without feeling different, but yet it still empties going alone through it, (oh i am not getting all sappy and shit here)

because i am not doing it alone, granted i am single and all that, but i have my girls and the bff, they understand me inside out, i love it sometimes even when i try to mask myself like say stuff that hiding my feelings or what i think, they respond back oh Q we know you so well ... oh GIRLs i have also a grand plan for you not to leave !! because i cant have you also leave, well at least one of you staying with me!

okay this blog is becoming a relentless mind dump, and hmm as someone said Q you have to learn when to stop. so i will stop here

Q.

Q Query #19: Conqured the Straight Scene - what next?

2009-12-24T17:30:00.000-08:00

So since august, i set myself on the mission of conquering the straight scene ... and well i did, it wasnt easy but i did. i Successfully conquered it, even though i am out to the public and almost everyone one the scene knows who i am and the fact that i am being gay.. i think maybe they think its the fashion Trend to have the gay friend... you know like the gay puppy ... your group is cool if it has its own gay in it... well to make sure that we are in line about which straight scene have i conquered .. i am talking about the party scene, the Tamarai, Club 35, La Bodega, scene....

My mission wasnt easy, it wasnt smooth either, because i couldnt totally detach from the homo life, i am after all a homo, so i have my homo friends who i love very much, so at the beginning it might have been difficult to find a balance between two lives, but i finally did it... okay enough praise to myself ...

The question okay i have done this, i established myself a group of friends, actually two straight groups and one gay group, i am out.. THE QUESTION remains... WHAT NEXT ... ?

Meet a guy, fall in love, move in together, and have a baby ?YEA RIGHT... the gay guys who are like me who have their life oir lfie in they straight scene who are recently the guys i am attracted too... are too scared to approach me because i am out .. they think that i will outst them.. the straight guys on the other hand are friendly ... the girls.. i am their puppy ... meet a guy in the gay scene .. well i have seen them all and either none of them attracted me ... or the ones who i am attracted too are not interested... so here i am stuck in a runt, SINGLE... that term single is scary for me because i am approaching 27 soon and i have always been SINGLE, (the dates that are under a month dont count .. sa7) ...

so what do i do next... GO BACK in the closet to attract the guys i like ? ... to late for that .. i have been outed in cairo ever since 2004 .. tab eih tani.. get a guy from the gay scene, who doesnt mix in the straight scene ? but how would that fit my lifestyle... it would mean that i have to go and center myself around his life on the gay scene ? or do i take a guy and we be with eachother on both scene ...hmmm hahahah i am sure the girls would love two puppies more than one :)

oh well dont mind me .. i am just thinking out loud here with no specific purpose.. call it stupid rambling... maybe its the winter time... isnt this time of couples... true... all the straight people are getting BFs-GFs.. even the gay friends have now boyfriends (with the exception of my BFF) ... oh CHEERS to walking the streets of cairo alone, Cheers to my single bed.. Cheers to becoming a NUN

Quuer Query #18: is there more to life than the gay scene ?

2009-10-16T07:23:00.000-07:00

Hello Readers, Followers, First time visiters.... i know its been long since i last posted but tonights post shall not disappoint. The past couple of weeks Q was pretty busy, for followers and readers, you have known that almost two month back i made a little switch in my direction, for a year and 3 month i lived in cairo a year of that, was almost mostly if not entirely focused on the gay scene in terms of my social circle. My life was work, gym, meeting my gay friends, weekend consisted of basically hitting which private gay party was happening and trust me there was alot happening, After a year of this, i was like there must be more to life than just the gay scene, also i realized i hardly had any straight friends... so i came to the conclusion that i will be less and less available on the gay scene while trying to make my enterance on the straight scene, while only retaining only a handfull of close friends who happen to be gay, as our friendship wasnt defined on our sexuality and maybe go to a gay party every once in a blue moon.

Hence two months ago i started my mission, CONQUER THE STRAIGHT SCENE!! it started off a bit rocky at start, starting contact olding friends, doing dinners with them, some of the old friends just bored me to death, until eventually i got back to the correct group :)... what might have really made things go into full motion was going to Gouna alone during eid, where there i made even more new friends, eventhough i was alone there i was never bored, i just sat and observed people and met people and like came back more adment to be part of that scene, which seems like loads of fun, i mean come on ... Glitz, Glamour, Fancy Bars, Open Air Bars, DJ who plays music on a standard equivlant to an int'l level, and we know how much we Q likes his music (now M before you comment YES THERE IS GLITZ GLAMOUR in cairo ;) ) and luckily me and one of my girlfriend who i am most of the time going out to these bars, have something in common, we are both highly sociable creatues, and in the same time we like to meet new people, not that anything is wrong with the people we know right now and the people we love right, its just sometimes it is refreshing to do your own thing, to have your own thing going on other than having the group thing, and yes eventhough it feels like only two month i am no where near conquering the scene as i would like to but for the first time in the past two weeks and specially after Gouna, i have been releasing i have been making a good step forward in that direction...

now here is the thing, me going there, does not mean i have any negative feelings towards the gay scene, actually no i dont, as i previously mentioned within that scene i made great friends, who are friendship is not based whether we are gay or straight or bi or trans or whatevz is out there ... its based on being friendship.

so to answer my question is their life outside of the gay scene, well OF COURSE YES, you can live outside the scene, and still retain your sexual preference, interestingly enough i think i have recognized more than a handful of people in the bars doing that, granted that they know OF eachother, but they dont form there little own gay click with in the scene, its like each of those gay guys on the straight scene has their own group... and not all are out...

i realize this post has a lot of the word "gay" "straight" where it would look that i am making a differetiation between them and i realize that in an ideal world there shouldnt be much a difference but in reality we are not in an ideal world, there is a huge diffference in the dynamics of this and that ... that one post wont be enough for, maybe a whole blog, it would be a worth a while to think about it i guess

Queer Query #17: Me Alone ?

2009-09-22T13:37:00.000-07:00

hmm.. are you expecting this to be some deperessing post on how a person feels lonely ... FUCK NO!!! I DONT DO DEPRESSING! this is a post that is more "i am man, hear me roar!!"

hmm so for Eid, while some friends headed to Sa7el i decided to go to Gouna alone... I was nervous in the beginning of the Trip, i was calling M in london telling him i am use to traveling alone in Europe, its easy to meet friendly people there, but i am not use to being an Egyptian traveling within Egypt itself alone, as we all know Egyptian straight scene is a bit clicky and well i wasnt really on doing on of those hook up with some one in Gouna, i just wanted to relax mostly.

So i pack up books (two of the ones that TrueBlood Series are based on) the New Dan Brown Book and some random fourth, i get a copy of menshealth and pack up my cloth and here i am set up for Gouna,

As soon as i arrived there was a party happening starting from 3pm-12 it was called "Work IT" it was the party that the whole straight scene was talking about, i went there alone, and well it was one hell of a party ... but appearantly i suprized myself... i thought i would be shy and sit in the corner and just watch people... which i hardly ever do when i am in Europe .. BUT NO i wasnt that shy weakling who sits in a corner in a matter of 2-3 hours, Q Met some group of girls and started mingling with them and talking and the next day Q went on the beach, and appearanly the girls all came and sat on my "bed" it was sort of a king sized suntanning bed.... and again was mingling and the girls again are planning to take Q out tonight,

My point simply being i have noticed one thing where ever i traveled let it be the Gulf, Europe or Australia, i always easily managed to meet people and enjoy my time, even if i am alone, GOD I LOVE MYSELF (am i being too egoistic here hmmm, hello YOU ARE TALKING TO Q OF COURSE I AM )

well enough about me (can we ever get enough about me)

xoxo
Q

Q Music #6: Streets of Cairo

2009-09-17T14:12:00.000-07:00

Streets of Cairo by Dj Samba Produced by Electrum Records (Egyptian Company) with vocals from payton

puts our Egyptian Dj to an international stage

Queer Query #16: Relationship Auto Destruct (RAD)

2009-09-16T03:32:00.000-07:00

Just to be clear the title of this blog is SO not original i read it somewhere, either on like M's Blog or Lou Blog or maybe i have written it in my old blog, who remembers, as long as i am not claiming full credit for it :), but i am making it my own by calling it RAD, now lets get one with it

Blogoshere O Blogosphere, writers, readers, if you are single dont sometimes day dream about that prince harming *cough* charming ... If you are in a new relationship, are you worrying about how to make it work, or if you have a LTR (and maybe a littlte FYI LTR doesnt equal more than 6 month maybe more than a year , 2, 3 ) then well you can consider yourself lucky and SMART.

One thing i have noticed within some of my friends, whether they are straight or gay, there is something common, we have this gene in our DNA that as soon as we get close to someone or open up to someone this gene gets activated, it releases hormones in our brains, and those hormones makes us do crazy things in effect, crippling the chance of developing a relationship with this person we opened up to. This gene is caled the Relation Auto Destruct (RAD) Gene.

lets start with a 20 year old friend of mine, for the past year he has been around with a couple of men, by a couple i mean more than you can count on both your hands and feet ;), but he complains that he cant find the right MAN for him, the man who he clicks with on more than a sexual level, he has a belief that as if he is trying to prove a new point, that yes you can have a relationship after sex... and sex first is important you know the whole philosophy "Test drive the car before buying" well anyway so its not so much of a new belief. So this friend of mine lets call him "Z", meets someone who is nice to him, who is decent to him, who understood him, etc... oh yea and Z sort liked him too, they even went on a little weekend away from the city together. then the RAD gene kicks in, Z starts to over analyze things and starts asking questions, Am i moving to fast? was it right to go for the weekend away? are we getting bored of eachother ? is he bored of me yet ? OMGW am i going to be monogomous finally ? oh does that mean i am going to sleep with one person for the rest of the year *cough* life ? So Z decides to have an infidelity with one of his random guys, just to prove to himself, well honestly i am not sure what he wanted to prove it doesnt make since... Anyway regardless of Z's guy would take and he would be okay with it becuase they are still not a 100% commited i guess or hmm, thats the effect of the RAD Gene.

Moving from the simple Gay world, to the world of the unknown, the Straight Female !!!
A friend of mine lets call her W, W has been always the girl who is well part of the boys, she got well with the boys, she is like on of us, her persona in itself is strong, and she aint afraid to swear and cuss at you in a classy way obviously, I have known W for a year or so but i think before knowing her she had a BF after that none, but here is the thing about W she as any girls would dream of her prince charming, and well she always got Harming, she most of the time got the guy, who is already with another girl, who might break with his GF for W, or end up marrying his GF and leaving W, hmmm all so interesting. . . so where is W's RAD GENE, well her RAD gene is making her choose the wrong guys all the time .

I am currently single, and i have so many examples of my RAD Gene, let be me saying the wrong things at the wrong time, me acting in a certain way that i should not, or me being at sometimes overwhelming, and to those who of you know me, my excessive texting and phone calls and drunk dailing!!

We all have our RAD Genes, only the few of us have been able to control & master it, those few are the ones in committed long term relationships or married. i dont understand that this statements means that all if you are not in a relation, i.e. your single, it means because its you RAD, which is not entirely true, because i also acknowledge the fact that you could be single because you just want to be, or because you cant find someone you click with or you could be just plane old butt ugly

;)

Cheers,
Q

Queer Answer: The Q Squared Survey Results

2009-09-13T16:37:00.000-07:00

In my previous post i put on a survey, 17 people took, i didnt, granted that i got some comments from friends that the survey was fully fair considering the fact when it came to asking about the sexual addiction part it didnt take consideration couples/partners, i do admit that the survey was done in a rush sort of because i was excited that i found out a way to create surveys on BLOGs.. REVOLUTIONARY!!! but cairo... well at least 17 people of cairo answered and these are the responces i got for some of the question

Now while i am honest the idea of the survey came from another blog i was reading a straight one actually what was interesting in the results of the straight one compared to the gay version i hapazardly created was... that we had one similar question "Do you fast ?" in that one which was also anonymous as mine since we used the same engine, 95% answered yes, where here the majority answered no with a percentage 53% ... ok i get it not much of a majority... but still a 40% difference is alot in the other survey the girl was able to get 20 also votes.. and it was aimed to a certain select of people .. the egypt upper class... .. another interesting thing that i noticed most is the class question when i was look at each person result like as full survey answered by one person i would notice that they would say for example they are X Class then they would think the gay men are in the Class above them, with a few people choosing that the gay people exist in the lower class too... well this was my first survey so hopefully the next one would be thought through more appropiately ...

oh i realized that i had a 15 year old reader for my blog, while seeing the written comments and this is the 15 year old reading my blog... .. well you are lucky when i was 15 i didnt have blogs to read from, we had to learn everything on our own.. now you have our blogs to get enlightened by.. LOL

Cheerfully yous,

Queer Query #15: Does the brain work all the time ?

2009-09-07T10:21:00.000-07:00

Hmm does your brain work all the time.. yes. Take me as an example i always think.. non stop even when i try not think and relax i am thinking.. i believe if you are not thinking then well you are brain dead and in turn you are dead. We continuously think about things that are important to us or to people we care about or to things we care about. Or even we think about or our urges like hunger, thirst, or being horny.

So this entry is going to take a new direction, first i will talk about myself which i usually do.. since i am supposedly narcissistic then i will ask you reader to fill out a survey (below)..

Thought #1: A Tale of two cities...
Having spent first two weeks of Ramadan in cairo and a couple of days in Saudi, i couldnt help notice the difference in attitude towards Ramadan, or maybe i just have two very different groups in each city. While in Cairo, it is "3ady" not to fast and as i previously mentioned i think in a way or another its becoming more acceptable with in the a certain sect of the community not to fast usually the liberal one, Riyadh is sort of opposite, and please dont say oh well its the Saudis, because my group is a mixture of Egyptians, Lebanese, Syrian & Jordanian guys. Secondly another thing i noticed Gay Community of cairo has less men and family members involved in it, where as in saudi there isnt per say a gay community its mostly a mixed community, so you will have mixture of straight and gay people together, or even a gay guy with his sister and another girl with her boss. It just those small differences made me think.

Thought #2: Age .. am i growing old ?
having been through a couple of interesting days and having some younger friends, where not necessarily what they are interested in .. i am interested in. It ranges from certain type of gossip, or just random sex or just some thoughts, I am starting also become in myself more mellow and i a more in content with that, like if i hang out with just a friend have tea and just chill i would be more happy than going to party (IQ if you are reading this ... i know you like that too.. the whole tea thing sometimes and i am not generally referring to you being younger than me in this point.. the world doesnt revolve around you ;) LOL ) ... its just lately sometimes when i am having conversation or interactions with people or am i just becoming boring !!!

Thought #3 Sexual Addiction
Remember in the first part of the post i said you think about things about you or people you care about ... well i cant help notice some of my friends and i can name a few do have sex on often ocassions like on weekly basis.. and i am none to judge and just because i have been on the whole notion for the past year that i woudnt generally sleep with a person unless i am dating them .. but in my head i think about my friends abit, are they too much addicted to sex.. or again i am growing to old too Fast...

okay now that i have did my what i usually call "brain dump" where i just slurt out my thoughts... now its your time to do my survey.... so why dont you riddle me the below questions..

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Q Music #5: Madonna Celebration (Benni Benassy Remix)

2009-09-02T04:59:00.000-07:00

this song needs no introduction and the remix is even better

so enjoy

Queer Query #14: One Year ?

2009-08-27T05:09:00.000-07:00

Yesterday as i graciously entered my GYM, i was met by the receptionist, and this what happened,

Receptionist: Hi Q, whats your ID No.
Me: hmm the ID is #####
Receptionist: Oh... your "annual" membership just expired time to renew it
Me: eshta!

The thing is, when i came back to Cairo the first week i came i did my GYM membership, so by the guy telling me my annual membership is due.. that practically means i have been back in Cairo for a full year.

1 full year back in Cairo !! ONE COMEPLETE FULL YEAR BACK IN CAIRO (okay maybe 25% of this year i was abroad due to work and shit) but still one year resident of good old Cairo... so what have i acheived in this full year of cairo... how have i grown up more how have i matured more what have i changed or accomplished in this one year

Stopped having one night stands for a full a year
Lost 13 kilos (i love my gym) ( oh and also its ramadan so i have feeling i might be regaining the whole of this year weight loss in one month!!)
Finished paying off one of my credit cards and brought down the second to 25% of what i use to owe (which trust me is alot!!!!!)
Done two European Cities, actually if you count 1 year and a 1 month it would be 5 European Cities.. i like to travel and i like Europe so on yearly basis i try to make my trip to a new city every time rather than doing the bulk in one go
Have worked on my relationship with my brother (it still is a work in progress)
Starting to exit the gay scene slowly but doesnt mean i am turning straight or ditching some of my close gay friends.. its just means slowly exiting the pop scene
Rising up in work
oh and how could i forget becoming more Spiritual

well i have done much more than that i am sure... OH SHOPPING!!! SHOOPPPINNG oh but every year i do shopping so nothing too much here BUT I LOVE SHOPPING OH THOSE NEW PRADAs and MARC JACOBS and DOLCES !!!!!!!!!!!!!! OKAY they cant really be counted as an accomplishment can they oh for fuck sake of course they can..!!!!!!!! we love marc jacobs!! and Dolce & Gabana (not the cheap shit d&g with letters, no the actual full name DOLCE & GABANA)

so one year done and one year to go!! so whats next year wishes ... what do i want for next year...
well very simple...

i want my fat percent to go down from 16% to 12/10%
be closer to owning my house/apartment
work on reconnecting with some of my old straight friends and make new straight friends while retaining my really good gay friends
oh speaking of friends my best friend is moving back to cairo in a month so YIPPPIEEEEEEEEEEEEE ... we are going to watch old movies in his house!!
i want some more of Dolce & Gabana and Marc Jacobs,,... and i want to own something Hermes, suprisignly i dont have that Capital H belt or a nice wallet from them yet!!!

CONGRATS TO ONE YEAR TO ME IN CAIRO AND MAY MY NEXT YEAR BE FULL OF HAPPINIESS SUPRIFICIALNESS AND IN THE SAME TIME SPIRITIUALITY

Queer Query #14: i am who?!?!!

2009-08-26T04:23:00.000-07:00

A Wise friend of mine told me once,

You are in a way the people you surround yourself with

meaning you are reflection upon the people you call friends, the way they act in a way is reflected upon you...

that's the end of today's post

Cheers,
Q

Queer Query #13: Religious Fashion ?

2009-08-22T07:56:00.000-07:00

This post might be considered offensive by some .. so i will try as much as possible to tip toe and be non offensive...

Basically, like almost anything with a lifestyle where it includes a fashion, a trend, a following, religion is no exception. However whats interesting its not a uniform trend globally or even within the same country, at least thats how i observe it, so for example in Australia it might have been the trend a couple of years ago among to be paganist, while now the new "fad' is being Agnostic. While on the other side of the world our beloved Egypt the religious trend is dependent on which society you are in, if you are in the straight or gay society.. and then which straight society in. Within the straight society the trend is tending lately to be more pro-conservative, i.e. more religious, however in the same time if you look at the straight "High Society" you would notice well they becoming more religious in terms of words and preaching but not really by acting upon it... after all who filled Skybar and Marasi this summer ;).

Enter the queer world of Egypt, well the fashion in it is Agnosticism, we try to follow the west sometimes. you know what is funny for me sometimes, when i was reading the blog of IQ and his last post "Sin-me My Sunni"... the comments that came on his blog by some of his readers that was all pro his provocative anti-islamic comments seemed to have came out of ignorance, ignorance about Islam, or religion in general, at times i felt like i was a reading a comment of a stupid airhead red state American guy, who is just responding for the sake of responding and following the fashion with no real knowledge of the issues. I in general have no issues or a bone with agnosticism however i am just annoyed when people comment on issues that they are not best knowledgeable about..

Well i myself am a muslim, and i do believe in Islam and i do respect other peoples choices on religion, one of my best friend has a wierd mix of sufism mixed together with kabbalah spiced up with some christianity, my other best friend prays all his five prayers, oh i forgot to mention they both live in london, not in Egypt. ... speaking of religious fashion, i get asked this wierd question this ramadan, that i dont think have been asked before on any ramadan ....

The conversation usually goes something like this ..

Friend: Are you fasthing this ramadan ?

Me: Yes

Friend: Like Fully Fasting ?

Me: huh is there more than one kind of fasting ?

Friend: Yes there is fasting from food only, while smoking and having water... there is fasting from everything other than cigarettes .... there is fasting while having sex ,,,

Me: NO I AM FASTING FULLY!!!!

is this a new a trend? new forms of fasting has developed, is there a new fashion for fasting ?

I believe that regardless of which religious belief you have, having some spirituality or faith in a deity is important for ones soul, so this ramadan, regardless of who or what you believe in... explore your spiritual side ... ? ask your self some questions like seriously, whats the point of this life... is the point of me living.. to blog, or to do the worthless 9-5pm job to advance humanity, or is the point of us living is for us to our soul mate ? what is the point... this ramadan do a bit soul searching, and understand when it comes to religion .. following a fashion trend can be dangerous for your soul, and try to following what you believe in and try find what you believe in and do understand finding what you believe in is not an easy journey...

peacefully yours,

Queer Query #12: RESPECT?

2009-08-18T03:38:00.000-07:00

with my new blog, Queer Queries, its been accused by some friends of being "boring", undaring as it didnt have in it what my old blog use to have, the sex element, more like my exploration with guys how i discover more about myself through these guys, its probably because with this new blog i am doing something new with in me, i am becoming more toned down hence my blog became more toned down.

When i was starting this new blog there was something i had put in mind to be respectful in this blog, try not to offend people, my last post in my earlier blog had to do with religious blasphemy, where i might have been considered blasphemous myself. So you can see the 180 degree i took around with in blog. when are beloved IQ posted a new post titled Sin-Me my Sunni i was in shock, he did tell me a couple of days before him posting it that he is going to post something around his religious fetish however i didnt expect it to be offensive to a religion in specific. what shocked me even more was his "Scene II" where he went infront of a guy who is praying and did the spread eagle while practicing his abs!!! talk about disturbing a man's peace, even if the guy was turned on, the idea of disturbing a guy when he is praying regardless of which diety he is praying to ... is just not so respectful

the point is ever since the blogospher was created, god knows when, i remember there was a lot of debate on it and there still is. debate was mostly bloggers becoming news reporters, bloggers have no censorship at all on them, etc. Not that i am pro censorship, but there is one thing i know though, when blogging a person should try to be respectful of others, as IQ said offensive is subjective, as you can see on some of the comments on his new post some of it are pro it and some of it are against it, so obvoiusly its not offensive to all, YET!!!!!! WAIT WE HAVE A BRAIN, GOD GAVE US BRAIN, if you dont believe in god, then which ever deity you believe in gave us a brain, science gave us a brain, which we us to think, when posting something of the nature of what IQ said, we will be quite sure that a lot of people will be offended after all not all his readers, followers, are of similar thought to him.

E, the blogger of awkward sex in the city has left an interesting comment on IQ post

"There is one thing to have a religious fetish, and its a totally different thing to resort to distasteful insinuations to increase your readership.
I personally find it pathetic and a very sad excuse for being "controversial".
But then again, ever the attention-seeking queen that you are, you will do anything to get people talking about what you "write", if I can call it "writing" at all.
And what I find absolutely infuriating is that pseudo-serious attitude you take towards established religion.
You are not "taking down" religion, God forbid, to actually critique it or give us some new insight, or even let us question age-old negative attitudes, no, you are being vulgar, disrespectful with half-baked ideas that are very badly written!
If you don't have anything better to say about homoeroticism of same-sex communities or the traditions that Muslims believe in (being negative or positive) than you would do us all a big favor and keep your "intense, sexy Scorpio" mouth shut!!"

now while most of the times, me and E have had our differences in the blogosphere where we dont agree on the same thing, but i think here E i do agree with you. IQ you can always blog about your religious fetishes nothing wrong with that, but there is always a good way to blog about it and the way you did. oh and i still cant "Scene II" out my head i cant believe you actually did that. Yes as you said its something "you" liked to do... but the key thing about respect is NOT "you" its respecting the other, so if a guy was praying we shouldnt disturb him, and dont give me the whole he choose to to pray here stuff, secondly with regards to your blog entry, well i am sure if you did some rewording you can convey the same point, with the same strength while not offending other people, Yes i am one of the gay guys who is offended by this. Just because we are gay, or agnostic it doesnt give us the automatic right to talk down about other religions, a true respectful person would respect all of other people beliefs.

respectfully yours,
Q

Queer Query #11: US, push the limits? what limits?

2009-08-12T02:55:00.000-07:00

In a European Mediterranean city sat 4 guys waiting for another two friends to passby to go have dinner, out of these 4 was Me, M from The Affirmation blog, and two other friends... we were recaping the night before, where we went to this club, where when you enter its a pretty much normal gay club, you know mens shirts off , boys dancing on podiums, but in addition it had a top floor which had a dark rooms, in the dark rooms, guys where just having sex in the club ... ?

So one of the four boys as we recapping the night asked, why is that we gay men always pushed our limits.. why is it that sex, drugs, are so easily found in clubs and so easily accessible, if i want to go have a lay i just walk in the room grab some guy in a dark room where i cant see the guys face or having any meaning and just let him stroke me! or something in that meaning

i offered an explanation, i was like gay men are men. and men dont really have inhibition between eachother and well men are by nature horny creatures and because gay men are men and men understand eachother hence we live in our dream world of preversion.

M offered another explanation that, Gay Men are repressed hence they hmm act out majorly ...

i was like but lesbians are also repressed, why dont they act out the same way, is it because when it comes to the nature of the genders, women are more emotional, soft, decent, and men are more primal, sexual, well indecent ?

its confusing its a very good question, and like if you think in Egypt going to the gay parties and having men make out in them is too much then you havent really seen the European ones, where when you walk in a party they would be giving you condoms for free as you enter, its like look we know you are going to have to sex so do it safe,... they dont do that in straight clubs ? better yet the little condom pack they gave us as we walked in the clubs had a little advertisement, GHB, IF YOU ARE GOING TO DO WHILE HAVING SEX, IT MAKES YOU NOT ABLE TO MEASURE RISK CORRECTLY SO PLEASE HAVE THIS CONDOM ON YOU AT ALL TIMES!!
seriously so they know that gay men are going to do this dangerous drug and that they are going to have sex, its like we are going to party not to have clean fun, but to have for the soul reason of having drugs and doing sex...

Me & Others, did some like 3 consecutive parties, where we didnt do drugs, where two of the guys with us dont drink in the first place, and we just danced, we had clean fun, and it was fun, it was so much fun that we commented on how much it was and how sad it was to look at the other poor souls faces looking so lost when they are on drugs, ...

look guys i am no angel i am not saying i have never dabbled with the substances, i am not saying i am the incarnation of virgin marry, i am just saying my friends question on why do we push the limit is avery interesting question? because i multiple times have tried to think of that but i couldnt... but hey there is something i also know that isnt the only gay world out there, the one we are known for the partying, the drugs, the sex, i know for example in UK of the movememnt gaylawyers.co.uk where they try to bring respectable gay ment together, i know of a lot of people who live off of that scene happy, the only thing is that those people are not the appearant scene, they are not the guys that you see all the time, and i guess what i am trying to say it might be a good refreshing time to see the good side of being gay or of the gay people rather than always the dark side... oh by the way another thing please dont think when i say that i mean straight people are angels in themselves, they do have their party, sexism etc culture too, which might be less appearant than ours, and even within the straight society its looked down upon, would a man marry a durg addicted women ??

anyway leaves your responces,
Q

Q Music #4: Your not alone (2009) - Liz Kay

2009-08-01T12:53:00.001-07:00

as i am in the airport about to depart in 15 minutes there is a song thats on my play list that i love the lyrics of it and love the tune of it...

Liz Kay - Your Not alone 2009

lyrics:

In a way it's all
A matter of time
I will not worry for you
You'll be just fine

Take my thoughts with you
And when you look behind
You will surely see a face that you recognize

You're not alone
I'll wait till the end of time
Open your mind
Surely it's plain to see
You're not alone
I'll wait till the end of time for you
Open your mind
Surely there's time to be with me...

It is the distance
That makes like a little hard
Two minds that once were close
Now so many miles apart

I will not falter though
I'll hold on till you're home
Safely back where you belong
And see how our love has grown

You're not alone
I'll wait till the end of time
Open your mind
Surely it's plain to see
You're not alone
I'll wait till the end of time for you
Open your mind
Surely there's time to be with me...

Queer Query #10: The Exit? Whaaaaaaaaat?!

2009-07-25T10:50:00.000-07:00

So hmm the EXIT ? what exit exactly is this crazy Q going on about now ? for the past two weeks i have been thinking (and god when i think... i think) so i came to this conclusion its sort of exiting the scene, it comes a time after 1 year of being with in the Egyptian gay "Pop" scene, by pop i mean the popular one... the one for a year where i have been so adamant on defending ... the one that i also made some great friends, been to great parties, met alot of interesting characters... but i just came to the conclusion that i am so invloved in the gay scene that i personally dont even have much str8 friends!...

whats the point of str8 friends anyway some might ask ? i mean they sometimes are just boring people that all the time just talk about 1. women tits 2. women asses 3. womens curves 4. soccer 5. some second rate sport 6. playstation. etc... is that true ? come on guys cut me some slack if we do generalize the str8 people as that they can easily categorize us as the guys who only talk about 1. men cocks 2. mens arses 3. mens body 4. partying 5. partying 6. drugs 7. alcohol ....

so i do believe somehow for someone to be balanced internally he needs to be balanced within his friends to have both gay and straight friends, but not to just have one. if all of your friends are gay ... i could say 80-90% of the talk is about men... and it doesnt have to be in a sexual way .. it could be relationship way or you obessesing about your own body or just a guy you like etc.. having only straight friends you might also end up talking about politics playing with that PS3 ... (side note .. why are gay men in egypt a huge fan of PS3 or is that a group of guys i havent met yet) you get to also hang out with people who have children, who have different views as you...

however mostly in a perfect idealistic world a person is a person and it doesnt matter if he is gay or straight ... because thats just his sexuality and it doesnt mean it affects the rest of him.. .but as i said thats in aidealistic world... in a realistic world.. its not really that you would generally notice major/minor differences within the two different worlds

so my exit is not me exiting being gay its exiting the main scene its me starting to work on my making some straight friends... me trying to regain the part of me that wasnt much associated with my sexuality but also i made some good friends during the process of the scene, who have been more than supportive so me leaving the scene doesnt mean i will cut all connections with them it just means that i wont be outgoing as much as to parties and however some of those guys are real friends and we will always stay in touch (Z ;) ) and for my blog ... just becuase i am not reporting from the scene means it will end but you might notice a different tone in the blog

Cheers,
Unbalanced Q

Q Music #3: The Summer Playlist (Part 1)

2009-07-11T03:24:00.000-07:00

As summer is upon us ... The Music industry flood us with new hits from all directions that we dont know how to keep up with them, so i have spent a little time sifting through the music to come up with my summer playlist part 1 (this is July i expect more in august to come in the market)

instead of going through the effort of typing it up i am actually going to attach images from my playlist and oh FYI Bob Sinclair new album Born in 69, only had the ability to stay on my harddrive for a period of 5 minutes then it was chunked in the "trash" ... its awful and repititive and not orignal and not the Bob Sinclair we love

Add to the two above play lists, Cascada - Evacute the Dancefloor, FYI boys there is alot more new tracks out there like the new Eddie Hawoell.. Cream Ibiza ... however this the music that i thought was essential on the beach after a long night of partying.. or is the music to get you just pumped up in the right mood

Queer Query #9: Le Caire... The lesbian side of Cairo?

2009-07-04T13:42:00.000-07:00

I woke up, this Friday and sort of it had it all planed out to be a quiet night, just lay on the pool in one of Cairo posh pools till sunset, followed by a dinner with a friend in a quiet Zamalik restaurant, which is what exactly happened, however that was not only what happened. As I was finishing my dinner with my friend who I haven’t seen in a long time, I called my good friend Saurez who is leaving the country in a few days, see what he is upto and grab a coffee, later I found out that he is downtown with some other friends who are visiting having a drink, and told me I should come over, so I looked at the watch it was 9:30, I said to myself why not I will just go for an hour then head back home, I did it have it me to stay longer,

As I met up with Saurez and his friends who are visiting, I did enjoy my time which is not a hard thing for me considering that I am happy most of the time, as I usually do I called Z (aka Ice Queer) to check up on him … to much of my surprise, he said “I am in a lesbian birthday party at a friends house, you should come and get your friends with you “ … in my head I was like fuck going home early I will not miss on the chance to meet the lesbians of Cairo. In my whole life in Cairo I only met three, and I thought there was no lesbian scene in Cairo I thought that might just meet off gaydargirls, and just be like more private and less outgoing than us poofters.

So I round up the boys with me, and we head off to bourgeoisie Mohandseen, Z takes from downstairs of the building then three flight of stairs (no lift) and I make an entrance to a house I have entered a month ago, where there was a vibrant dance party. The door opened, OMG, the gay men have been replaced with lesbians I mean girls. The proportionality of Poofters to Lezzies was 1 to 3, I was in shock. Also as soon as I entered my head was just drawn back two years, when I went to an after party at a Filipinos friend of mine in Dubai, I remember that night clearly, it was after a wild night in club Peppermint when it existed in the Habtoor Grand, I entered his house and I found out like 30-40 other Filipinos, where there was no dancing they just sat in a big circle talking!!!!! Well entering the house and seeing the Lesbians gathered around the house sitting on the sofas and chairs and not dancing just made me reminiscent of that night.

As the night progressed, and drunken Z swayed his hips left and right and a couple of the lezzies started to get up and dance, the music was mostly straight music, okay not straight music, RNB music (which to me by definition is straight, even if its Rihanna) it was very interesting to observe the lesbian culture of Cairo, even though I didn’t really talk much as, with any gay culture, I was too busy looking fabulous and mingling with the other gays and updating about my very active life and showing off my new gym body (not so perfect but improved)

However i kept noticing as the night progressed the girls, just went from calm to damn right wild girls!, some girls where kissing, others where touching, we had the variety of lipstick girls to the dykes and the tom boys, and well all the girls that you see on the L-Word. However as the clock came close to 1:30am I was thinking it was time to make my way back to the Island, and head back home, however just as I was leaving I met one of the most interesting girls, she was very friendly, the way we met was I was lighting her “cigarette”, and she accidentally kicked a plant that looks like a mini palm, she tried to readjust using her butt cheeks! Which she was able to do ! then we exchanged the whole I hate vag, I hate cock words, then we talked.

I asked her: why don’t I see you girls more often ?
She Said: oh because the girls here are afraid, they are more afraid than us gay boys, we have more freedom,
With this this expression on my face that reads WTF, I said: but you girls have it better than us, you can be more disguised than us, you can just walk into clubs, because you don’t need this whole couple entry rule as you are girls, you just can walk as we men we cant walk in any clubs
Her response: well as you we are mixture of girls, and the girls are just afraid to go out and be judged or thought of as that they are lesbian..

Then I got interrupted by a friend who dragged me for a dance, however this girl I was talking didn’t sound like the girl who is afraid to go out, she wasn’t afraid but it seems she was just pointing out what the others girls though, which sort left me hmm well I had no idea other than damn there is a lot more to Le Caire (Lesbian Cairo and not the French name to Cairo) to discover it was sad that I didn’t get any contacts or spend more times with these girls to discover them its also sad that both of our scenes don’t mix often, as both of us could be very beneficial for each other in cairo, for people in the closet, we can use each other to maybe mask the fact the they are lesbians and that the guys in the closet are gay. There is a lot more collaboration that can be made between the two scenes.

When I was in Australia I noticed one thing, that the lesbians didn’t really much go to the gay bars and vice versa and when I found finally a group of Arab lesbians there, they invited me over to their house and introduced me to sub Gay Arab scene, which apparently was more interconnected, also one of the girls said, it was also due to the fact that some of Arab Lesbians and Gay Arabs would get married to each other to mask their sexuality to their family in Australia, or if there families are back in the middle east. I have done my share of traveling and globally I have noticed that there is always a disconnect between the two scenes and until know I don’t understand why I have tried on more than one occasion to do but I don’t

With love,
Q

Queer Query #8: Summer Time.. Season of love ? (ehm horniness)

2009-07-02T03:05:00.000-07:00

Summer has started.. okay maybe i am one month late on this but none the less it has official started. Boys have been hitting the GYM ever since may in hope with in the two month they can burn away winter fat, or the slim boys will bulk up by taking some steroids & supplements. GYM supplement companies must make a huge profit during this time of year. my GYM in itself has got over over over crowded with straight boy, girls, gay boys, (where are the lesbians?), i use to go to the GYM at like 6 or 7 pm and be always find an empty locker now... i can hardly find one. So Summer comes and we are obessed with our bodies, we check ourselves in the mirror on daily basis, we just want to simply look good for that one month or week or whatever period of time we are going to stay there ... we just want to look as close to Hercules as possible.

The truth of it is, most of the people that go to the GYM for the two month of May & June hardly ever success in that mission because they dont realise that obtaining that perfect body requires alot of work, i have invested 8 month in mine and i am not even close to it... maybe if in the two months they dont eat, and take major fat burners, combined with a shit load of nitro/cell tech they could achieve it .. but it still looks fake.. it doesnt look like a naturall fit body it looks like plastic.

so while all of us are working on our body and checking ourselves in the mirror, its only natural that we get turned on by flesh, we are in the summer we are in the beach we are in the gym, we are surrounded in an environment that supports showing off our flesh whether its the BICEPs or the Calves or the ABs, we are just turned on and become damn horny

i also have noticed an interesting trend over the years and correct me if i am wrong here... usually when summer starts .... alot of relationship ends.... in particular those who were with eachother not because they are actually into eachother.. but just because they were desperate and would be with anyone they meets, its like when the summer comes almost everyone with not so much of a solid relations breaks up...

Then Flings becomes a common thing in the summer, just as relationships are a common thing in the winter... maybe its the wheather... maybe the cold makes want to cuddle after sex.. the heat makes us want to push the guy out of bed afterwards... who knows ? maybe being on the beach or the gym and seeing all those hot men doesnt make you feel satisfied with what you have and that you want to have more ? i am no shrink ... but hey shrinks out there why dont you study this phenoma ...

while the elite plan their trips to europe whether for genuine tourism and seeing the city where they happen to meet a fling there, or whether they go on a sexpade in one of Paris's many sex clubs ... the normal people are in Egypt, showing a "good time" to the tourist.

to sum up ... summer is no time for love, its the time for flings... so what does a person who is not really affected much by the fluctations in the whether to do... oh well another three month i guess of being single!

Not so Wet,
Q

Queer Query #7: DO I REALLY I NEED TO HAVE A TITLE FOR THE POST ?

2009-06-20T12:00:00.000-07:00

18 days since i posted, 11 days since my birthday and been across three different cities in the Arab world... planning a European destination holiday in august.. 2 of my closest friends in Egypt or moving out of Egypt.. new friends are being made... "seeing" a 19 year old, okay technically he will be 5 days... body fat percentage down by 2.5% and weight down by 3.5 kilos ... almost at my target of 12-13 percent body fat percentage ... got a new Mont Blanc ring, bag, wallet for my birthday .... a couple of new Jeans and T-Shirts... a couple of interesting parties ... frenimies made truce...made a new interesting friend, who asked me to add him to facebook... lounged a day on the pool in one of my favourite spots in cairo... i guess what i am saying this was hell of a busy 18 days ..

so what do i blog about what should this new post entry be about should it be about friends leaving should it be one a birthday party that was hmm interesting and amazing in its own right.. do i talk about how different two arab cities can be so much of each other and how it just reaffirms my non belief in NON PAN ARABISM .. or do i talk about plans to Europe Part 6 ... or do i talk about my interesting ring with an interesting inscription or is it the 19 year old boy ?
usually you would want me to talk about the boys because suprisingly SEX... SELLS ... so no i wont do that.. i wont put myself in that strata of the common

Today i would do something mmm a bit interesting i would be giving you an insight into me. who am i. and by who am i ... i dont mean my name... i mean WHO and WHAT makes me.. ME.

Q = simple succesful guy
Q = a hot guy
Q = a party boy
Q = a workholic
Q = fashion loving whore (i mean simple and not to flambouyant things)
Q = a complex guy (contridicting to point 1)
Q = Gemini ( i thought you would have figured that out from 1 & 6)
Q = MUSIC LOVER (house music mostly)
Q = Travel Addict
Q = A Cunt/Bastard
Q = Exhibisitionist
Q = Out of the closet (i think i forgot to paint the rainbow on my forehead because some people just dont realize it yet)
Q = A Social Guy, one can never enough friends or acquitenances, people are one of the most important assests in the world
Q = is in search of a spiritual balance and is finding it at the moment in ISLAM (dont be shocked)
Q = Big Nerd when it comes to the IT industry
Q = has a good knoweldge of different plan types and their seating patterns (A321, 320, 319, 330, 380, Boeing 747, 737, 787) yet he is not a cabin crew or never has been a cabin crew or dated a cabin crew
Q = a guy who has lived in 6 different cities, so he has the experiance of picking himself up and making new friends where ever he goes
Q = a politcally aware guy

the list goes on and on and on and on i mean come on i am perfect guy seriously i am i am not joking but i am the perfect catch but i am SINGLE... hmmmm something not right here!!!

is it something wrong with me.. is the Mirror i see myself in, is lying to me by telling me i am the most handsom, sexy, intelligent, worldly guy in Egypt... or are all the other guys fuckers... hmmm ? am i too picky

Lets be fair i have had my share of dates for a while, where i go on a coffee date or a drink date with a guy.. and however i dont usually end up clicking, always i can find something wrong with them

K = compulsive liar, image oriented guy, who thinks just becuase he can go to a certain egyptian club that makes him COOL
C = has a boyfriend in the states and dont live here
VC = was 19 year old but had the brains of a 26 year old and has also done an internship before starting his uni, actually he was a good guy but i guess i wasnt ble to grab his attention so yes this was my fault(will explain later what i did wrong)
M = the 19 year old i am seeing now but he is just 19 thats says it all but somehow he attracts me
K-1 = a very interesting guy but again my fault, couldnt get him interested
GV = a very interesting guy, but sort of dating a guy but even before he dated that guy i wasnt able to get him more interested in more than friends, not that i actually tried
B = hmmm again my fault
Guy from the Gym = damn i until now cant even master the courage to talk to him

i think the usual problem with me is that i come off as too strong, way to self confident and also i think the fact that i am out to some of my friends and some certain members of my family sort of threatens a person ... but its mostly i come off as too strong... for example with VC & k-1 & GV i did come off as too much too handle... that i am high maintenance that i am basically a handfull of a guy who had experianced a lot... when in reality ... ok i guess in away or another there might be some truth to that ... but maybe i can tone it down a bit,

Actually ever since my move back to Egypt ten months ago, i did learn how to tone it down a bit, but not alot i dont want to loose who i am .. and what makes me ... ME... its my sass!! my witt!! my attitude!!

oh well what to do ....

Personally i didnt believe i am made for Egypt, i didnt believe egypt can handle me... when i say that people might directly think to the worst.. that i am some sort of queeny flambouyant boy.. no i mean Egypt is not ready for my thought.. my brain.. my dreams .. my hopes ... my plans... but some how i have grown acoustmed to get use to live with Egypt and make the best of it while still keeping my idealogy and thoughts intact ... what thoughts are we talking about.. hmm thats another post(s) in itself... its called Q Theory (not to be confused with Queer Theory)

i keep asking myself am i going to be living here with another four years ? (thats when i become 30) am i going to do normal thing and runaway like others in search of a life where and i qoute a guy who i was with last night "where people wont point at you and look at you" becuase you are different a place where i dont have to act extra butch just to try to conceal the hint that i might be a HOMO ... or would i be in Egypt, would i find a guy who i would settle with and live a private life with him and stay in Egypt till hmm i get grey hair (never going to have salty hair!!)

basically today post is about nothing and everything .. its just me "rambling" to myself hence why i really couldnt think of a suitable title

Welcome to my world ,
Q

Q Interview #1: Ice Queer exposed

2009-06-02T06:04:00.000-07:00

in a spur of the moment unplanned msn conversation between myself and ice queer, we decided to log our msn chat and make it an interview style and well publish it... .. so here it is ICE Queer exposed... i wish i had some naked pictures to just add with this line....

Q says: (1:53:42 PM)
ice queer, whats up love
Q says: (1:54:08 PM)
how is everything with you been lately
Ice Queer says: (1:54:32 PM)
good not bad, having a headache from that Islamist teacher at the hospital today
Q says: (1:54:56 PM)
so i have heard he takes 15 minutes before start of class and after class preaching you...
Q says: (1:55:00 PM)
so i have question for you
Q says: (1:55:12 PM)
how long have you had gay friends or have been involved in this gay scene
Ice Queer says: (1:55:28 PM)
6 years i guess
Q says: (1:55:57 PM)
so ever since you have been 13 ?
Ice Queer says: (1:56:15 PM)
15
Q says: (1:56:51 PM)
oh yea i keep forgetting you are not 19 anymore
Ice Queer says: (1:57:18 PM)
lol I'm 100! :P
Q says: (1:57:20 PM)
so what 6 years in the scene.. what do you notice the general trend or the general thing about the scene about the people
Ice Queer says: (1:57:56 PM)
people/player changes but the game is always the same
Q says: (1:58:18 PM)
in what since ya3ni ?
Ice Queer says: (1:59:12 PM)
The Queens, the Muscle Marries, the party animals...etc those labels always remain but the persons change!
Ice Queer says: (1:59:35 PM)
that's about the people
Q says: (1:59:49 PM)
what about friends.. ?
Ice Queer says: (1:59:53 PM)
about the scene, well I don't believe that Egypt has a GAY scene
Ice Queer says: (2:00:17 PM)
about friends, It's not that hard to make really good friends but you just need time and patience
Q says: (2:00:48 PM)
when i use to be younger and your age (not that i am old i am only 26)
Q says: (2:01:02 PM)
i use to notice something every 3 months or so
Q says: (2:01:19 PM)
the group of friends i have had changed... within the same players its like we were playing musical chairs
Ice Queer says: (2:02:46 PM)
Well, I believe it differs from a person to another
Ice Queer says: (2:02:58 PM)
also you should consider external factors
Ice Queer says: (2:03:05 PM)
like timing, maturity..etc
Q says: (2:03:44 PM)
okay so here as an interesting question or at least i would like to believe so
Q says: (2:03:52 PM)
on Queen E awkward sex and city blog
Q says: (2:04:06 PM)
how do you feel about the change of your name from kiki jr to snitch jr.
Ice Queer says: (2:04:45 PM)
It's funny for me
Ice Queer says: (2:04:53 PM)
cuz I don't take online world that serious
Ice Queer says: (2:04:58 PM)
it's just a virtual world for me
Q says: (2:05:42 PM)
but wasnt the change of the name an effect from some incident that happened in our real world
Ice Queer says: (2:09:09 PM)
yeah but as E said it himself "What I write can never be taken or read realistically or literally."
Ice Queer says: (2:09:35 PM)
so I've never taken what I read online seriously and never will!
Q says: (2:10:08 PM)
which leads me to the question do you think a blog is public or a private space
Ice Queer says: (2:10:47 PM)
a personal space where you are totally free to do whatever u want
Q says: (2:11:25 PM)
but doesn't that contradict the whole idea the blog is on the internet and everyone can read it
Ice Queer says: (2:12:50 PM)
it doesn't follow the rules of "public"
Ice Queer says: (2:13:01 PM)
i.e it doesn't have to follow the norms
Ice Queer says: (2:13:22 PM)
and If anyone doesn't like what he/she reads, then he should leave!
Q says: (2:13:46 PM)
let me ask you a question would you write a secret like a very important one on your blog
Ice Queer says: (2:15:01 PM)
Well if my friends donno about my blog, then yeah y not!
Ice Queer says: (2:15:24 PM)
and even if my friends know about my blog, i'd still post a secret but according to how black it is!
Q says: (2:15:45 PM)
you once told me you shared an article or two with your shrink
Q says: (2:16:00 PM)
if your shrink goes on google and writes the text thats in the article and hits search
Q says: (2:16:07 PM)
he will be able to find your blog easily
Q says: (2:16:21 PM)
also knowing how trustworthy your shrink
Ice Queer says: (2:16:31 PM)
yeah he is my shrink, I don't care about how he would react
Q says: (2:16:32 PM)
my ex shrink* what if
Q says: (2:16:41 PM)
he goes and shows it to your parents
Ice Queer says: (2:16:44 PM)
i can't believe u r comparing friends to a shrink! :P
Q says: (2:17:17 PM)
i am not comparing shrink to friends.. i am using a shrink as a plausible way your parents might find out about your blog
Ice Queer says: (2:17:18 PM)
well in this case, I'll find a solution
Ice Queer says: (2:18:39 PM)
Anyway my point is, If u've a blog and u want to diss people and talk about them then you should keep ur identity top secret, even from your friends!
Q says: (2:19:26 PM)
true in a way but if you are identity is compromised... like our friends know pretty well who is IQ,Q,E...
Q says: (2:20:24 PM)
so is our blog in particular
Q says: (2:20:51 PM)
a personal space or a private space... in comparison with lets say XY a20somethingrambling blog
Ice Queer says: (2:21:23 PM)
my blog is more personal than public
Ice Queer says: (2:21:49 PM)
most of guys I wrote about donno my blog and don't even know that I blog/write
Q says: (2:22:11 PM)
but some do and you know love how gossip flies...
Q says: (2:22:18 PM)
didnt K find about your blog?
Ice Queer says: (2:22:29 PM)
because I told him!
Q says: (2:23:06 PM)
oh ... what guts!
Ice Queer says: (2:23:36 PM)
hmm not really
Q says: (2:24:03 PM)
well when you re-write about him
Q says: (2:24:09 PM)
are you going to tread carefully now
Q says: (2:24:51 PM)
or are you going to be as open
Ice Queer says: (2:25:52 PM)
as open
Q says: (2:27:12 PM)
fair enough ... IQ what do you think would make this interview more interesting ... i mena by adding a topic to it.. like you ask or suggest something :P
Ice Queer says: (2:28:56 PM)
lol I know that the comments will be that am a celeb. wannabe..etc
Ice Queer says: (2:29:00 PM)
but what the heck!
Q says: (2:29:36 PM)
or more likely known as social climbing whore
Ice Queer says: (2:31:07 PM)
lol
Q says: (2:31:21 PM)
how does that make you feel
Ice Queer says: (2:31:58 PM)
nothing
Ice Queer says: (2:32:13 PM)
it's silly thu cuz it's far away from the truth
Q says: (2:32:34 PM)
how often does IQ have sex per month
Ice Queer says: (2:33:02 PM)
I don't have a certain pattern
Ice Queer says: (2:33:12 PM)
it depends on guys I would like to sleep with
Ice Queer says: (2:33:16 PM)
on my mood
Ice Queer says: (2:33:18 PM)
..etc
Q says: (2:33:25 PM)
how many guys have you slept with in the month of may
Ice Queer says: (2:33:48 PM)
I don't keep track
Ice Queer says: (2:33:55 PM)
It was never a "number" for me
Q says: (2:34:12 PM)
hmm lets see the gulfie then two over last weekend... maybe one or two other so is 5 a safe number :P
Ice Queer says: (2:34:45 PM)
Would I need my lawyer in this interview?
Ice Queer says: (2:34:47 PM)
lol
Q says: (2:34:59 PM)
no not really
Q says: (2:35:01 PM)
lol
Q says: (2:35:10 PM)
so we say 5 but at the moment you have a crush on this guy
Q says: (2:35:13 PM)
called K
Ice Queer says: (2:35:34 PM)
yeah but am recovering rapidly
Q says: (2:36:08 PM)
ohhhhh any new crush on the horizon
Ice Queer says: (2:36:36 PM)
fortunately not!
Q says: (2:36:59 PM)
tab i have a question do you sometimes feel like you are stuck .. in a routine
Q says: (2:37:11 PM)
for me its work... gym... during weekdays with the ocassional
Q says: (2:37:14 PM)
movie time
Q says: (2:37:29 PM)
while on weekends a party or two... do you not feel like we are stuck
Ice Queer says: (2:37:29 PM)
def.!
Ice Queer says: (2:37:49 PM)
yeah but it's every where!
Q says: (2:37:55 PM)
well you being a student you know that one last forever though .. sa7 ?
Ice Queer says: (2:38:21 PM)
And actually I guess we r less routinic than Europeans and more developed countries
Ice Queer says: (2:38:42 PM)
it will last but the studying/college will change to working/job
Q says: (2:38:46 PM)
elaborate in alot details boy
Ice Queer says: (2:39:31 PM)
We Egyptians r very laid back
Ice Queer says: (2:39:55 PM)
Europeans/west are more working machines
Ice Queer says: (2:40:12 PM)
so their life is more routinic than us
Ice Queer says: (2:40:17 PM)
working in week days
Ice Queer says: (2:40:22 PM)
partying in weekends
Ice Queer says: (2:40:39 PM)
but in Egypt u can go out with ur friends after work finishes
Ice Queer says: (2:40:47 PM)
bottom line; the city doesn't sleep!
Q says: (2:40:48 PM)
but you do that in europe too
Ice Queer says: (2:41:21 PM)
yeah but most of cities of Europe sleep at 10!
Q says: (2:41:39 PM)
true
Q says: (2:42:00 PM)
the stores closes at 5 or 7 too!!
Ice Queer says: (2:42:13 PM)
yeah
Q says: (2:42:41 PM)
hold on a second work call
Ice Queer says: (2:42:51 PM)
sure

Q says: (2:52:33 PM)
sorry for keeping you waiting
Q says: (2:52:40 PM)
work guys are pathetically stupid
Ice Queer says: (2:52:59 PM)
lol
Ice Queer says: (2:53:01 PM)
its okay
Q says: (2:53:47 PM)
so yea so you feel like is in a runt
Q says: (2:53:58 PM)
what is that you wish to accomplish lets say 3 years from now
Q says: (2:54:46 PM)
or more where do you see yourself
Ice Queer says: (2:55:00 PM)
Hopefully, doing my master degree abroad
Q says: (2:55:22 PM)
okay so is it for work
Ice Queer says: (2:55:37 PM)
that was the deal with my parents, saving money for masters abroad instead of wasting it on lousy private medical college in Egypt
Q says: (2:55:45 PM)
and career reasons
Q says: (2:55:49 PM)
or you just want to get out of egypt
Q says: (2:57:00 PM)
like what i guess i am trying to ask is that does Egypt make you stressed out and make you feel like you are in runt and
Q says: (2:57:34 PM)
like you dont see your future here
Ice Queer says: (2:57:43 PM)
The thing about Egypt that I love it and hate it in same time
Ice Queer says: (2:57:52 PM)
yeah I don't see my near future here
Ice Queer says: (2:57:56 PM)
maybe far future
Q says: (2:58:52 PM)
i guess i have the same issue its like i love it so much but do i see myself dating a guy and living a normal life here and living with him i dont know
Q says: (2:59:01 PM)
we have friends who did so as you know and they are very happy about it
Q says: (2:59:26 PM)
but also in the same time i also come from the aspect if i did that would my life revolve around the scene as you know its very draining
Q says: (2:59:32 PM)
i guess its just tryign to figure out the future
Q says: (3:00:13 PM)
so iQ who inspired you to start your blog ?
Q says: (3:00:22 PM)
for me it was and god created men blog.
Ice Queer says: (3:00:54 PM)
it's a funny story
Ice Queer says: (3:01:04 PM)
The lights were out and I was bored
Q says: (3:01:11 PM)
please say it was my old blog the gay chronicles :P
Ice Queer says: (3:01:26 PM)
so I was playing solitaire using the pen of my previous laptop
Ice Queer says: (3:01:36 PM)
and I've never tried to write using that pen
Ice Queer says: (3:01:40 PM)
so I thought to write something
Ice Queer says: (3:01:48 PM)
and ta daa I wrote my first post!
Q says: (3:01:59 PM)
ohhhh
Q says: (3:02:33 PM)
your first post was in july 2008 it must have been a boring summer i guess
Q says: (3:02:41 PM)
almost a year from now
Ice Queer says: (3:02:57 PM)
yeah I can't believe my blog lasted all that long!
Q says: (3:03:07 PM)
it was called Get a Life People
Ice Queer says: (3:03:17 PM)
I never thought I could even write! I knew I was good at composition in school
Ice Queer says: (3:03:26 PM)
but not to that extent
Ice Queer says: (3:03:28 PM)
yeah that was it
Q says: (3:03:57 PM)
it started with
Q says: (3:04:00 PM)
"I don't know if I was wrong but I hope one day someone will understand what I think or what I believe or what I do, It is just it is too depressing that am surrounded with too many judgmental, hypocritical and schizophrenic mentalities in my/our society in Egypt.
"
Q says: (3:04:38 PM)
how have you changed since that first sentence you wrote... is your belief still the same did you not find someone who understands
Ice Queer says: (3:05:19 PM)
No, it's the same feeling
Ice Queer says: (3:05:28 PM)
(not talking about my friends, sure my friends understand me)
Q says: (3:08:56 PM)
i actually feel somewhat same but different
Q says: (3:09:29 PM)
its like i have the issue of taht i have people who understand what i feel but just because we understand eachother it doesnt make us automatically best friends...
Q says: (3:09:49 PM)
ya3ni i have over the past year or so built some what good friends here... previously i wasnt
Q says: (3:10:16 PM)
because sort of the first time since i moved back i sort of found people who also come from the same background and way of thinking of me... and they sort of went through the same experiances
Q says: (3:10:52 PM)
i might be judged to be a classist sometimes by people.. but hell sometimes i am... its just a fact of egypt... different classes do go through different experiences
Q says: (3:11:21 PM)
as they have different background and different education ... and it does affect them differently and the way their parents take it is different too...
Q says: (3:11:27 PM)
do you know what i mean
Ice Queer says: (3:13:39 PM)
yeah
Ice Queer says: (3:13:51 PM)
but classes r so cliché
Q says: (3:14:31 PM)
do you not believe we are classist society
Ice Queer says: (3:16:15 PM)
"classes" in Egypt got so deformed after the revolution
Ice Queer says: (3:16:36 PM)
in Nasser's era
Q says: (3:18:00 PM)
okay well i believe i mean okay
Ice Queer says: (3:18:10 PM)
it's more about either bourgeoisie or nouveau riche or low class
Ice Queer says: (3:18:12 PM)
now
Q says: (3:18:34 PM)
what you forgot the higher upper class who have been the upper class from long time ago
Ice Queer says: (3:18:59 PM)
they r dieing out!
Q says: (3:19:05 PM)
lol
Q says: (3:19:35 PM)
okay but dont you believe the upper/higher/ bourgeoisie etc go through different experience than the middle class and lower
Q says: (3:19:48 PM)
ya3ni the guys with the money travel, they are more educated
Q says: (3:20:24 PM)
they go out to clubs where you have minimum charge to be 100 or 250 pounds
Ice Queer says: (3:20:47 PM)
and u think that all what u've mentioned makes u classy?
Q says: (3:22:05 PM)
well no i mean i have met people in those clubs who
Q says: (3:22:15 PM)
way trashie in attitude and god knows what else
Q says: (3:22:46 PM)
but the usually the guys who are of the higher or upper middle class that have access to these sort of things
Q says: (3:23:11 PM)
doesnt mean that all that go there are generally classy in attitude you have seen that girl friend of one of our friends who disappeared
Ice Queer says: (3:23:12 PM)
and so do nouveau riche people!
Q says: (3:23:28 PM)
i dont consider her classy at all yet she goes out and parades her boobs all over the place
Ice Queer says: (3:24:16 PM)
exactly my point
Ice Queer says: (3:24:30 PM)
not by money, not by education...etc
Q says: (3:24:40 PM)
but still my point is those people with the money regardless of it being new money or old money
Ice Queer says: (3:24:45 PM)
u could be classy in attitude thu u r middle class or low class
Q says: (3:25:01 PM)
well yes you are true and very right
Q says: (3:25:07 PM)
but my point is not classy in attitude
Q says: (3:25:19 PM)
while not understating the importance of being classy in attitude
Q says: (3:25:59 PM)
my point is those people with the money regardless of it being new money or old money would have access to an experiance similar to what we have hence you have some common ground ... let me rephrase
Q says: (3:26:03 PM)
you are high school
Q says: (3:26:26 PM)
you make friends... its a given that you guys will have the same experiences being in the same high school and you will do all the same things
Q says: (3:26:37 PM)
you grow up together graduate go to uni some of you go even to the same uni
Ice Queer says: (3:27:07 PM)
yeah but still, everyone will perceive those experiences in different ways
Ice Queer says: (3:27:16 PM)
some wouldn't enjoy it or appreciate it
Ice Queer says: (3:27:19 PM)
some would go to extreme
Ice Queer says: (3:27:21 PM)
..etc
Q says: (3:27:43 PM)
you are not getting my point though
Q says: (3:28:02 PM)
what i am trying to say having something in common as an experience.. brings you closer together
Ice Queer says: (3:28:06 PM)
yeah I know what u mean by background
Ice Queer says: (3:28:14 PM)
but is that background is really you?
Q says: (3:28:32 PM)
so for me my experience with growing up was major clubbing in clubs around egypt ...
Q says: (3:30:11 PM)
hold on work call
Q says: (3:30:13 PM)
again
Ice Queer says: (3:30:30 PM)
ok

Q says: (3:37:18 PM)
back
Q says: (3:37:25 PM)
so it wasnt just about clubbing in egypt
Q says: (3:37:40 PM)
it was about clubbing and the memories of us getting drunk
Q says: (3:37:45 PM)
you know what i think it is...
Q says: (3:37:59 PM)
i think i just had too much fun while at uni and i might be trying to recreate those memories
Q says: (3:39:24 PM)
IQ i have to end this interview now and we have to re-continue later do you have any comments or anything you would like to add before ending this
Ice Queer says: (3:42:57 PM)
sorry was talking to that hotty
Q says: (3:44:39 PM)
oh well just a reminder this still recorded... yalla lets end this so that i can get back work and what not of my life
Ice Queer says: (3:46:12 PM)
lool
Ice Queer says: (3:46:21 PM)
Well I enjoyed this interview
Ice Queer says: (3:46:30 PM)
I didn't think u'd come with interesting questions :P
Q says: (3:46:48 PM)
how dare you IQ
Q says: (3:47:39 PM)
tab come on give us your final words of wisdom of a 20 year old boy to your fans.... (dear IQ fans stop listening to him... i am 26 so i am more experienced and hell i am more popular)
Ice Queer says: (3:48:17 PM)
lol
Ice Queer says: (3:48:27 PM)
make the most of now
Ice Queer says: (3:48:33 PM)
and don't think too much
Ice Queer says: (3:48:33 PM)
and oh yeah! *WORLD PEACE* lol
Q says: (3:49:43 PM)
okay and with this miss world 2009 style of ending... we shall end this interview till another one

Q Music #2: Freemasons feat. Sophie Ellis-Bextor: Heartbreak (Make Me A Dancer)

2009-06-01T13:33:00.000-07:00

In an effort to diversify my blog from gossip and thought i am adding music... and you would be able to follow music under Q Music titles where thought will be Queer Queries ... and gossip well i still havent done that and not sure i am going into that directions

now without further intro, yesterday song was Y.A.S - Get it right, and today as i was driving from back from work... with my ipod transmitter not in the car i turned on the radio with SAFI on nilefm and god it was a boring show, however just as i was turning the corner towards the garage of my house i heard this song HEART BREAK ME A DANCER and it just stuck in my head its a tune that was able to get the Y.A.S tune out of my head.. i didnt know who sang the song until it ended but the accent the way glorious Sophie says Answer and Dancer that thick Australian accent i was sure it must have been Sophie with her unique voice... actaully i think i memorized Sophie voice from my 13 year old sister over on summer in Australia where she would always play "Murder on a dancefloor"

As i read some of the reviews of this song i cant just help see that alot of people are anticipating this to be the summer hit... while i believe it will be one of the summer hits.. it wont be THE summer hit... but god that voice just wants to make melt... another thing to note is that Sophie just like Madonna, Britney, Christina, Kylie, & Danni (her not so known sister to the rest of the world) is also a gay icon, and she tries to imply that with the dancers in the background wearing the same glasses as they wear in the lilly's sketches from PAM ANN, which is one of the biggest sketches in gay cultures, specially the Cabin Crew Culture...

As most of the songs of Sophie ... its a retro chic, that doesnt cater to everyone tastes buds, but its a very catching tune

and now the song!!

Love Q

Q Music #1: Y.A.S - GET IT RIGHT a well produced and forward arabic tune

2009-05-31T01:34:00.000-07:00

People who know me well, know how much i am not way much into POP & RnB and how much i like my house music... they also know that i am in different to Arabic Music ... and know very well how much i criticized the cliched Arabic music videos,

so when i get a forward in the morning on facebook about this song called Y.A.S - Get it right and clicked on it ... i was just left AMAZED ... great video, great song .. very artistic ..so without much more introduction the song and video speak for it self... enjoy it below

Queer Query #6: Blogging what ? Blogging Etiquette ?

2009-05-27T04:34:00.000-07:00

just as there is drinking etiquette and gay attitude etiquette there is also blogging and writing etiquette... i wasnt just born a day ago.. i have been blogging for five years, however i keep changing blogs for one reason or another... everytime i learn something new..

with my first blog 20 something & gay ... i have learnt not to talk about people
the gay chronicles have revealed to much of myself because you never know who will end up reading this... hence why i recreated my blog under the image of thought... food for the brain ...

as a person grows up he learns something... this might be a free world all and all everyone is entitled to his own thoughts.. and everyone can equally blog/write his thoughts to public ... its the same thing as every has the right to say what they want to say to someone face....

but let me know something... how is it sometimes, one does for a fact censor what he says to someone when its face to face because that person is afraid to hurt someone feelings, yet a person can go online and just bitch the fuck out of that person later on

with out on going rambling the fact is people have etiquette in real life, we learn that when we deal with friends sometimes we say white lies, we learn in school how to interact with people, we learn common social skills its part of growing up.. when we see a person who lacks socials skills sometimes we just say he is still an immature kid he needs to grow up... but when it comes to the blogosphere world what happens to these social skills that we have learnt ? is it because we dont have facial interaction with the person we write about that it gives the right to be MORE bitchier than we would face to face....

does a blog have to be directed to bitterness and hate and lack of class by just dissing everyone in existence and call every one vicious and that no one that exist is good and every is evil and bad and black from the inside and that you have to at some point reveal the viciousness of them all...

if you are a reader wondering what this is about then let me give you some background, with in the gay blogosphere of egypt there is maybe four popular blogs, mine, nautika.blogspot.com ... confessions of a testosterone addict and awkward sex in the city... each one of these blog has their own flavour... i would like think mine is one of the popular ones though... one of these blogs flavour is absolute bitchiness towards people, of sometimes me, that person who goes under the blogging name of E.

The question what made E "the queen of us all", to bitch about us in an extreme way... there is a difference between normal frivolousness and funny bitchyness and just down right mean!

a blog is a useful tool you can use to create good with it or you can use just to show your true evil colours... i would rather do the earlier... we as community dont need much more hate in it, as E said we already are plagued with hate in the real world, he is not the first or the last to do so. however my point is if you see what the people are doing are wrong by being sacramental to others, then why do you doing it .. E's blog starts with the title of "This is a futile attempt to explore sexuality in Cairo" what does all bitchiness and god know what inside there has to do with exploring sexuality.. last time i checked... there isnt more than 5% of the posts has to do with sex.. .actually i have been following his blog for a while hardly anything to do with sex...

when did being gay and exploring sexuality of being gay become the anti christ, from when did being gay meant == rude... maybe sometimes its common accross his scene but not across all.

as i have said i was born yesterday and i was just induced in the Egyptian scene only when i returned i have seen thise scene for more than 8 years prosper and grow and one thing i have learnt as i tried to explain to a new comer last night... the scene is not just made of one community with different sub groups under it... no its made of more multiple scenes, with each scene having multiple communities and each community has multple groups.. point being.. as much as E thinks that we are a scene plagued with bitchiness and horridness which might be true to an extent but its not always.. when i returned back to cairo 8 or 9 month ago.. i found some new gay friends and for the first time i can say this... these new people didnt talk behind my back... these new people when they saw a flaw in me and trust me i am flawed they would tell it to me right to my face... in a POLITE manner, the keyword here is being polite... and here is the thing when you confront someone about something you feel is wrong with him and you be able to provide critisim in a constructive way it just goes along way

i am deviating from the main topic i guess but i do have a point that i do want to make to just some things up.... E, and other "vicious" bloggers why dont you make good use of your writing skills and god knows how good of writer and the wit you have with your words into good use... why all the bitchiness... and even if you are being bitchy and some guy comes and approach you about that he doesnt like being talked about... or if i dont like when you mention a name of a bar in your blog... you should try to be respectful and gracioius to the other person just avoid the drama... and just add more gas to the fire as they say here in egypt tesha3lalah why not grow up and just appologize and end it.. why does there always have to be a scene and a big fuss made about it... why not ever go for truce ? why not be a nice person ?

Queer Query #5: Under the influence ?

2009-05-23T15:15:00.000-07:00

Is it possible for a gay scene to exist with out being under the influence of a substance... regardless of the substance being drugs or alcohol ?

okay even if people are drinking in a party, i mean after all its a party, how would you socialize, do people know their limits on when to stop drinking ?

FAST FORWARD...... abit

If you think of it, in reality alcohol is not that common in the Arab world, as it is western. Yes you might be use to going to parties in Egypt where everyone drinks, Yes you might go to drinkies every now and then, Yes you might even call that dealer of yours to hook you up with the exported one if you havent travelled in a while. so in our bubble its common, but step out of this bubble and look outside of the bubble of gay parties, look outside of the bubble of straight bars, its not common.

now let me just deviate a bit and point out something... usually sometimes when you are in a gay scene you dont always get people introduced as the 19, 18 year olds, mind you though there is a huge influx of those coming in now... but sometimes there comes 25s, 30s even who just join in... and those new incubents dont generally drink, as remember as mentioned earlier its not that common for people outside of those bubbles to drink, so these new influx usually come in and under peer pressure start to drink... some might go to the extreme and go do drugs, even though not as common as it seems in Egypt..

The problem with this, is that you get 18-21 new influx and not to mention the 25s, 30s etc coming in and they just dont have the experiance in handling their drink... once upon a blog time my best friend who goes by the blogger name M with The Affirmation blog has said... that when he was growing up he would always wanted to be better, he learnt all the proper etiquette, including the art of drinking, the art of asking guys on dates, the art of actually kissing a guy in a party with out looking like a total sleaze bag, ...i think i never saw M make a huge fool out of himself in any party that i have been with him at... anyway i clearly as most of the people who would have known me in the past have lacked this etiquette but i made it a point that i actually learn some....

so i was retransformed i stopped making out with random boys ... i know how to hold my glass .. and eventaully i am starting to have better social skills, specially when it comes to meeting people for the very first time.

my point is that i am trying to make here is that well, gay parties get tiresome after a while, dont get me wrong i am not complaining they are fun, because you get to hang out with all your friends at the same time, you get to talk in a safe heaven, you even get to meet one or two new people every now and then...however have you ever stopped in the middle of the party and just looked around... looked at the faces of the people around.... looked at the way they were acting... thats exactly what i did in last night party... i had a couple of glasses of Vodka Cranberry with a twist of Orange, when i was starting to get typsi around 2 am i have decided time to sober, so go myself glasses of water with a twist of lemon and started drinking by 2:30am .. i was all great again .. then as i inhaled on that cigerate between my fingers and looked at the people around me.... my friends... the new commers.. the younglings... and just looked at their faces i couldnt just help how drunk they were ... they were fun though.. but it just made me think can we have fun with out being drunk... can we just be satisfied with just being typsi ... or on that part where its before you are drunk but you are not so sober at the same time?
i am not saying lets go all non alcoholic eventhough i bet it would be very very very very interesting to see 1 gay party with out alcohol... i can already imagine the faces of people... everyone would be nervous and complaining ... and not to mention fidgety scratching their forearms for that drink

so as i was writing this blog,,, i think i know what this scene needs, it needs some classes for M, M since you are not in egypt for a while maybe you should do us a blog entry on your blog where you teach the boys here about the etiquette of gay partying

xoxox
Q

Queer Query #4: If Men are from mars, Women are from Venus.... what the fuck is happening on MARs, an Orgie?

2009-05-12T13:42:00.000-07:00

How Many times have you heard that Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus... as a gay man when i hear that i just cant help laugh...i mean lets be realisitic anyone who is been in a gay scene would say well there are over a dozen of type of gay men. Gaydar.co.uk when it launched its sexfactor competition has realized that ... that it created it based on looks the Guy next door, the Guy next door 25+, the SnM, Jocks, etc... there cant be on planet to fit all of us gay men on.

Granted that mars is a darker shade of pink ... RED, but lets say if that big planet had different countries on it, then how the hell are you going to classify the men.... i mean the countries ;)

i have been on a number of dates recently, eventhough i have been complaining that i havent been going on any then i just realized that well i have been a number,

so i would like to introduce my characters, i mean the countries, as the way i should see mars should look like..

one of the most common thing about being gay in the arab world is have a sort duality in life, a straight life and a gay life, where the USUAL, the COMMON is that they dont mix, people with that ideology sometimes have extremes where people can know how to master the art of creating both separate lives but keep both groups, where they can keep the str8ties to going out certain places, usually the nice areas, or keep the gay in indoors party or a bar that no one will go to. on the other hand you have guys who mix them well they take there "dates" out with their straight friends, thinking there str8 friends wont find out about them gay but they are so oblivious to the fact that there str8 friends know that he is gay... Introduction of the First countries. The Country that keep the str8ties at bay is going to be called Country V while the latter shall be called country Kay

Country Kay: once upon a week, i talked to this guy online, it took us two weeks to meet because of some "excuses" he cancelled on me twice prior to meeting me, yet on the third time i just agreed on doing it... dont know why i shouldnt have... but i was curious... we went to la bodega, he was HOT... he was cute.. i flirted the right amount... we left... met up afterwards with friends was telling them all about how cute he is was.. and nice decent and well he basically met most of my superficial standards, so per my friends advice i didnt call all next day tell he called and invited to me go out with his friends to Club Purple... str8 friends that is!!! i was like ahhh okay i shall... and shall i did. we went there .. he was 15 minutes late... his friends where sort of okay and nice and funny, but i am like how couldnt they that this guy is NOT gay... and what was more amazing was the fact here i am in purple... i see other 4 gay guys other than me and him... they know he is gay.. but i had to pretend to be str8 to them?!?! and whats even more confusing they are gay and they are pretending to eachother they are str8 eventhough they know for CONFIRMED FACT that they are gay because they know who they slept with.... HELL DOES THIS MAKE ANY SENSE..... anyway fast forward a week, hell knows what happened with K.. one day is cold the other he is like ahhhh into... and what was even more confusing the night went to purple he get dropping in the word that i am his date when it really wasnt a date... so as i mentioned fast forward a week i accidentally run into him in purple when i was out with a girl friend of mine on a str8 night out (not to be confused that i am not out to her,, we just needed a break from the other gay boys) and then i run into him accidentally... i ignore him and hang out with my friend he comes to us every now and then ... i thought that it was part of his game that you know where is no longer playing cold... little that i know... at the end of the night he kept dancing with my girl friend telling me her how beautiful she is ... where i responded.. k you are gay.. he was like no i am BI... and listen to this... HE ACTUALLY LEFT HIS NUMBER ON A NAPKIN for her.. which she as a ny good friend gracefully left on the bar for the bartender to pick up!! the idea is Country K is about the psycotic gay men... who know matter what you can never understand them regardles of mixing or not mixing str8 friends.. and they are so oblivious to the reality around them where most of the people around them know that he is gay no matter how hard he tries other to prove other wise, and i dont mean he is queeny.

Country V: for those who have read my previous blog before i removed would have realized V is one of my close friends who i kiddingly call Potential Best Friend. V if you reading this, which probably are.. i am sorry about what i am about to say but you know it anyway i said a million times to your face. V is the kind of Guy where is str8 life is totally seperated from his gay one... its like way two different worlds.. but what frustrates me about this with V, is lets say that we wont to go somewhere nice, like one of the nice bars, in town, he would be NOOOO because he would be too afraid that there is 5% chance that we might run into someone he knows even if that person was someone who was with him in kindergarden and i kid you not!!! we did our little holiday during spring break away from the red sea on the fear that V might have an issue running into his str8 friends in one of the red sea cities or resorts like Gouna.. granted where he took us at the end actually ended up as a nice place.. but still the concept.. Country V is about the guys who are so deep in the closet that it annoys the guys who mildly out of the Closet

Country Coke: Gay men are accross the world are almost always associated with Drugs, Partying, Alcoholism, and being WAY TOO HAPPY, Egypt is no except to that concept. But us being a smaller world its more appearent and you actually get to know by name the people who uses, and those people who use usually mix with their own kind, and have their little house parties with Coke, E, MDMA and whatever they can smuggle back from europe or get locally, did i mention that the Coke group also is the group that you might find hanging accross spain, london, brussels, munich for just the holidays... yes they are also some of the wealthier group who can afford the travels.... to me most common people they wouldnt figure out that those people are users, but to me, Q, come on i see and i konw everything that happens on this glorious land, to me Country Coke, are combined of people who has it all in terms of wealth a good reputation on the straight party scene (oh trust me having a name on the straight party scene is not an easy thing) they are people are who are able to hide habbits, discreetly within the confined borders of Egypt, however they are as i was discribing to one of my good friends today the people that i feel lack personality and are superficial and weak, why else would you resort to drugs and think its something cool to do!!

Country Cock & Ass: Cock & Ass, to be here after refered to as C&A, C&A is a country where all that matters is sex. you hang out with people who belong to this country they will talk about nothing except who they fucked, how big was his dick, how small was it. how wide was he, how when he fingered the and the finger came brown. Or rather on how good the guy was, which is sometimes a rare thing to here... i have friend who sort of resides in this country, in where we kid that sometimes he is a sex addict, that for fun he just has sex... is just like having a drink or smoking cigerates, but lucklily for us that friend doesnt share the details of his sexecpades, god if anyone gets his phone.... boys you will get the black book to all the hot men of cairo

Party Town: Party Town (PT).... is sort of a subset of all countries, each country has its own town where people gather and party in it. usually this town is a house for each group, sometimes different countries invite other countries to their own party town... or sometimes an international citizen, like myself, will have a party in a country like switzerland where it neatural and invite all the countries. some PTs would have drag queens perform in them on a belly dance, other would just have arabic music playing all night long, while other other would have commerical stuff from 2 years ago playing or sometimes on rare ocassions you would have the ones that have house music that is the latest off from ibiza, london, new york. In Party town usually you have main players, like you have in the str8 scene, the movers and shakers, these are usually the people who have their own place, or people who know the house owners, then an important part of this however not all these countries can host good parties, so much like the str8 scene you have major players who you know when they throw a party ... you would kill to be on that guest list.. and others you are just like what ever who care we arre not going and usually when the movers dont go the party becomes shitty

Drama Town: in every country right next to Party Town exists Drama Town, sometimes drama town exist as a subset in PT but it also has its own independent cafe outside of it... what i am saying it always exists in PT. show me one gay boy that doesnt have drama in their life , whether its party you are organizing and stressing about the guest list (M) or whether you are stressing about not having enough guys available to date, or whether its your brother, family, mother, university, and if everything is okay, it might be about not finding the correct size of those jeans... i honestly honestly dont believe there exist a drama free man and from out of a million of experiance of going to meet and greet guys, and they are advertise themselves as "drama-free" are usually the most dramatic. did i not mention K earlier.

the countries and the towns just keep on going with the lieks of tranishack ville, right next to it you can find liar ville, right next to it REAL PEOPLE country, its just a million other countries which we shall discuss a bit more as i run more to them on wierd dates but in the mean time what i think would be more fun if you leave me any country that you think needs to be added in the list in the comments

Q.

Queer Query #3: What would happen if Egypt INC. officially allowed Homosexuality on its soil?

2009-03-07T17:10:00.000-08:00

Going with the new branding image of Egypt by the government and the same way all countries try to brand themselves, I am going to call the Egyptian Government, EGYPT INC. at the end of the day we are like a co-operation, where you have the high level paid CEO, COO, CFO, CXO ETC, getting paid big bonuses even if nothing positive is in the outlook

For the question in matter what would happen if Egypt INC. thought like a real co-operation and realized that allowing homosexuality, and supporting the creation of a gay scene with in Egypt, and together with support for same sex marriage, would mean a lot of gay tourism. And lets face the facts, (ok not so much fact as my own assumptions) isn’t the PINK POUND more worthy than the normal straight devalued POUND. Gay Men & Women usually spend more than straight people, for a number of reasons, namely we don’t have as much as dependents on us as straight people (wife & 5 kids), another reason our vanity, and our happy nature of being always out… Marketing people in GQ, Esquire, Vogue Home, realize that to the extent even though they try to be straight magazine, but the adverts in them are targeted to attract the PINK POUND, show me an average (Making 6000L.E, or below) straight man who will go fork up his saving for of Gucci Undies.

Also another aspect Egypt should consider going PRO HOMO, is that well lets face it, they will gain a lot of credit on the American Market and well international in terms of human rights, which could well again help them economically, because well one of the reasons USofA didn’t finalize the Free Trade Agreement with Egypt was because of its Human Right Record, and the imprisonment of Ayman Nour, obviously this isn’t the main reason but one of the many. So basically another reason for going PRO GAY is it will effect its relationship with Europe, USA which in turn would affect it economically

So lets hypothetically speaking say that our Company has realized and that Egypt INC, has decided to go PRO HOMO to reap some of its financial benefits. What do you think will happen, will it be a smooth transition, where lets say we can pick and choose a street or district and decide to name it the pink district of Egypt. Will Egypt has its own Soho, Oxford Street, or Canal Street.

Assume we did, with the help of many of our talented Artists, Interior Designers, Architects, where able to transform downtown into a GLBT district, where we had Gay Cafes, Bars, Discos, Support Centers, GYMs(as if we need more of that). Two questions that come directly into my mind
1) Muslim Brotherhood, and maybe other fanatic groups
2) Would people actually go?
The first is pretty obvious, Egypt is pretty much of a decent country with regards to safety, with the exception of the once every 3-5 years bombing. So do we really want to give those guys another group to target?
The other reason well a lot of the people here like being discrete of being in the scene in even house parties. Or in a bar that might have more than 3 people. I even met people who are afraid to meet other gay people because they don’t know what to do if they see them while they are in the company of their straight friends in a public place.

Mostly it is to due with fear, of what people do if they see oneself anywhere near a gay place. Fear of what people perceive you if they know you are gay. Its like you are ashamed of being Gay. What personally annoys me the is that, I can understand or relate to you at some point if you are ashamed of being gay from a religious aspect but if you are one of the new generation 18-26 gay boys on the scene who are not that religious and are afraid because of what people would perceive I don’t understand.

Some of my friends are out to their families and friends and they are taking it okay, I am not say wear some pink dress and walk in the street, I am not saying flaunt it, I am not saying be out, I am saying be who you are and don’t lie about it.

Why is this important? why am I saying that ? as I previously mentioned in this query, is that do you think if all of a sudden, Egypt INC decides to go PRO HOMO it will get the good reactions all by itself, we have to start somewhere, by small little steps. Do you think America, UK, Lebanon, Australia even had a gay seen in the 1900, 10s,20s,30s,40s, 50s, 60s!!! some of these gay scenes are of action that took place in 1980s, pre-that they had some similar issues of the society not accepting, but there had to be small steps.

So do I personally think Egypt INC will go PRO HOMO, or will EGYPT be a gay scene with in the next 20 years, NO … 30-40 is a MAYBE, 50-100… possibly… it all depends on when do we want to it happen

One last note before I end this entry, this is no GAY ACTIVISM or HUMAN RIGHT FIGHT, because well I am neither this nor that. I am just stating some facts, so in a way yes I am hypocrite by not doing much other than being out to my friends or some family members, but remember its as much as one can do with in his own circle. I know I have changed some of my friend’s opinions with regards to homosexuality.

Leave Your Comments,
Q.

Queer Query #2: Are you Straight ?

2009-02-21T05:50:00.000-08:00

i have came across this really nice video passed on facebook,

have anyone asked you if you are gay, or if you came out to them and they asked you a million other questions

here is the perfect response

Queer Query #1: Who the hell are we ?

2009-02-14T13:52:00.000-08:00

I haven’t done much job interviews in my life, just one and I have always been in it, however when I was at university there was a question that would sometimes ask you in an interview, or even friends would ask you, how do you identify yourself?
The questions usually went like how do you identify yourself in order
a) Arab,
b) Muslim (Christian)
c) Egyptian (Other, depending on where you are from)

I think the point of that question was establish if you see yourself more Arab more Egyptian or more religion as in what do you think unite you with the people around you. You usually people who put Arab on the top are the believers or the Arab Nationalism, while people who put the Arab at the bottom where not really pro Arab nationalism, I always put Arab at the bottom. However let me spice up the question considering that we are queer, well at least I am, I tend to assume my readers are too. The question should go like this

How do you identify yourself?

a) Egyptian
b) Queer/ Bi / Transgender
c) Muslim (or which ever religion)
d) Arab (or which ever ethnicity you belong too)

Or do you just identify yourself with just one or two of the above, so for example I could identify my self as a Gay Arab, or I Could be A Gay Egyptian Muslim. I know most of you reading this are thinking why even put a label, however here I am not trying to identify someone with a label, as I don’t believe in it self but what I am trying to reach is first identify ourselves something then lets see what will happen if you don’t identify yourself as that … okay I understand confusing…

Best to give an example, one day I was having a conversation with an old straight friend of mine, and he asked, Q, what would happen to you if you don’t identify yourself as Gay and Successful at work? I didn’t understand the question immediately however, he went on explaining on how I use to act before I was not accepting of myself before I wasn’t comfortable in my own skin, then he started saying after I came out or after I started accepting more who I am, my confidence have grown a trazillion times, where I personality paradigm shift has happened in me, I was more happy and I was more outspoken. So I understand his question if I wasn’t successful or acting upon my homosexuality I wouldn’t be happy it was more of a comment than a question I guess. Which to most of us just seems as a simple common sense. He then asked what if I stayed single, and well not successful at my career but still getting a good salary maybe even double the salary, what would happen to my confidence. The natural thing to say is it will go down the drain. I know a lot of the boys out there would love a salary with no work, but I am sort of am workaholic and being good at what I do at the office defines me. But the question is does being Gay Define me? See my friend asked the question in a smart way … he got two things and put it in one questions, one with regards to a personality trait of being ambitious and another with a different personality character (biological some might say) and put them together, however you cant really equate success to you be gay, as success is a luxury where one being gay is as natural as one being straight its not something you really think you can strip yourself upon from. Later on I think he made the question the not strip myself from being gay… but to being back in the closet… well no I wouldn’t be happy of course

However do identify myself as gay First before everything else, or do I identify myself as something else, I never really thought about it that way because at the end identify myself as a couple of things, but gay is not on the top of the list or at the bottom of it either

Now lets think of the bigger picture, what about the Gay Identity in the Middle East, again as much some of us hate to put labels, but we have to admit there is a huge sub-culture here within the Middle East. Whether you are in Saudi, Egypt, Emirates, Libya, Morocco, Lebanon, its almost all the same… actually even if you are out of the arab world it is similar. However here it seems more interesting to look at. You have Guys by mornings in their suites, at night in the middle of the week grabbing a shisha or a drink with their straight friends in a bar acting straight… then comes the weekend, the Gay parties start, they somehow manage … to transform (obviously this is a generalization) the party boys in us come out from the youngest 16 to the oldest 50… and we all despite of our age difference hang out together, and well it doesn’t mean the that 50 year is pedophile he just looks at the 16 year as the son he was never able to have.

One of the biggest identify crisis though I noticed in the region more than in the west or any other region in the world (maybe exception of Rome), is that the guys have problems identify themselves as Gay and Religious at the same time, there is always the guilt that comes after having sex with a guy, there is always the guilt of when you look to another guy. Just one of my good friends here last night as he was with Mexican boyfriend, told him that he believes that being Gay is wrong. Of course my Mexican friend was in shock… and I had to explain to him that how we Egyptian are. I think the reason why we are so guilty about it though here is that the religion is more apparent in front of you everywhere in this part of the world, its so part of every day life, whether you are in the office and you have to break for prayer, or during the presentation or sales meeting you keep saying inshallah. Where as when I travel abroad I tend to myself loose touch with religion. However some of us can take that in a positive mood. Whatever your religious views are they are personal with you, however when you know what you believe in you always get some sort of harmony … one of my best friend found harmony in Abrahamsism, or mmm forgot the name just basically the belief in the three monotheistic religions. While my other best friend who also lives in London, is a guy who is muslim and prays almost everyday 5 times, if he drinks he only drinks after esha, so he doesn’t pray while he drinks, his philosophy is that he is not sure if what we are doing is wrong or not but he is sure that being promiscuous, getting way drunk, and not praying is wrong, so he tries to minimizes the wrong in his life.

Another aspect I realized here as community and I am not sure if this has anything to do with identity more than just social way of acting but we usually tend to push things too much to the limits. Go to a straight party … Go to a gay party. Parllel Universe, and I am not saying because one has Britney where as the other Ja Rule(or some stupid RAP crap…. Interesting RAP Rhymes with CRAP!!) I am saying about the attitude we tend to be more promiscuous, drugs more prevalent (not Egyptian scene as much as the Saudi, Lebanese and well European Scene) we are some what how do you put the word on it, oh I know it QUEENS. And I don’t mean this in an offensive way you can still be a butch but still be a queen ☺

I still believe the only thing that brings us together as community whether in Cairo or Riyadh or Dubai or Beirut, at first and probably for long time is the fact that we are gay. Most of these people who go to the parties they don’t have a lot in common other than they are gay, you have so many different classes, ages, backgrounds, education, thoughts, mentalities, attitudes, egos, nationalities and not to mention dicks in one room that its hard to find that all of them are really have something in common maybe the random two or three together, and even sometimes boyfriends are together for the wrong reason (guaranteed sex)

So Far most of what I wrote sounds negative, true. But it doesn’t mean that I look at the way Identify myself as negative, I myself couldn’t be more prouder than being queer, I myself couldn’t feel more comfortable in my own skin with out that, its just I am saying Queer is not just me and I am not just Queer there is a lot more to me (my love to Trentemoller music)… I am not saying the Cairo Gay Scene, The Riyadh Queen Scene, The Dubai Princes Scene, The Beirut Gay Sleaze Scene, is all that bad. They have their positive things, because at the end of the day they server the purpose they are made for… escaping the reality and partying it up and just having fun and smiling and not judging the other based on anything

With my fake anonymous blogging identity I leave you guys to it,
Please do leave comments its interesting to see other people thoughts

Cheers,
Q